We love people when we are young but as we grow older we start avoiding people as we just don't have the time to humor them.
Very often it happens that we stop caring about people much as we grow older. We prefer keeping our own company and we like being around only those people who are close to us. We start finding a lot of people quite annoying and we do not like being bothered too much about them.
We become less and less social and we stop finding time to socialize with completely new people. We do not care too much about the niceties and just prefer our peace and quiet. We like minding our own business and expect others to do the same as well. But why does it happen?
While we are young we have both the time and the patience to tolerate others. We do not mind a bit of bull-sh*t here and there and we can even tolerate quite a bit of nonsense in our day to day lives.
But as we grow older, we stop caring about the BS. We start finding it tiresome and weary. Our own lives become more complicated with families and friends and we find less time to indulge in things which are of little consequence. We simply stop bothering ourselves with stupidity.
In our younger days, we put in extra effort to make new friends. We look for new possibilities and new experiences and meeting new and exciting people becomes important to us. We make sure that our experiences are varied and that we meet people from different walks of life.
As we grow old, however, the need to make new friends starts disappearing. We already have had a lot of different experiences and our exploratory nature subsides a bit. We do not feel the need of people's approval and we already know who our close friends are.
When we are young, we try exploring new things, new lifestyles, and new ways of leading our lives. We look for opportunities which can add to our experience and we welcome new ideas into our lives with pleasure.
As we grow older, however, our thoughts and our ideas start getting crystallized. They become our values and we more or less become comfortable with who we are and what we think about. Our lifestyle and thoughts settle down and we do not seek to change them actively.
While we are young, we are open to new people and new experiences. We are more trusting and we readily believe in people. Our need to belong makes us slightly vulnerable and we do end up trusting a lot of people who, with hindsight, we might not have.
But these are the experiences which start mattering as we grow old. We understand the kind of people we are and the kind of people we need in our lives. We do not fall for the same old tricks and with experience on our side, we understand that not everyone is worth our trust.
When we are young we do mind the trivialities of life. We are more patient towards the shallower things in life. We even engage in idle gossip without a concern or a thought of consequences. We take life easy and just go with the flow.
But as we grow old, the trivialities stop mattering. We become interested in the deeper aspects of our lives and we become interested in things that have value for us. Our time starts mattering more and we become conscious of the things we like and don't like getting engaged in things of no consequence.
While we are young we are not completely sure about what we want and what we expect from our lives. We experiment, we try, we learn, and we fail too. Our priorities are still not fixed and there are a lot of uncertainties we deal with.
With age, however, we understand exactly what we are looking for. We understand what matters more to us and we become better at setting our priorities. We become capable of solving complex issues and know the things that are important to us.
At a younger age, we try to fit in. We look for people's approval as we wish to belong. We do not mind being influenced by different ideas and we even welcome different kinds of people in our lives to enjoy more, our social lives.
With age, however, we know who matters in our lives and what kind of lives we wish to lead. We want to live in a certain way and anyone who disagrees is someone we actively avoid. We are done with the drama and as we grow older we say goodbye to pleasing others and hello to the life we wished to create. People just become a nuisance.