Why do a lot of people have a cigarette just after they have had sex? What does it add to the act of being intimate?
Have you ever had a cigarette after you have been with someone? Does it add any additional pleasure to the one you just had? Does it improve your elevated status when you inhale that large puff of nicotine immediately after making love to your partner?
A lot of people do enjoy the smoke after they have been intimate. It is even one of their prime requirements and they may even feel the urge to have that smoke just as they are about to finish. For a lot of them, it does become a craving and they enjoy the smoking part as a post-coital ritual. But why?
While this is not the primary reason but it has played a dominant role in promoting the concept of having a cigarette after sex, movies have a lot to do with this idea. During the 1960s and the 70s, a lot of movies could not explicitly show the intimate scenes and hence they resorted to creative ideas to reflect that the actors had been intimate.
The actors smoking a cigarette while on bed became synonymous with the act of being intimate. Movie after movie, this concept was drilled into the psyche of people and soon a lot of them started associating cigarette with the concept of being 'cool' and started believing that it was the best thing to do.
If you would ask a smoker which is their favorite time to smoke or which smoke satisfies them the most and a lot of them would say that their favorite one is the one they have just after food. Having a cigarette after having a good meal acts like a 'capper' for them and they do believe it adds to the pleasure.
Sex also acts similar to having a great meal. The satisfaction and the comfortable feeling one has after sex and after having a good meal are somewhat similar in satisfying one's mind. The smoke after sex, therefore, acts as a capper here as well and elevates the pleasure, at least in perception.
For smokers, the need for regular nicotine uptake is quite high and the body starts feeling the need of another shot quite soon after the effects of the previous one have faded off. The loss of nicotine in the bloodstream compels them to smoke one as soon as the withdrawal effects are felt.
Sex is a physical as well as a mental activity. It requires a lot of concentration and effort and leaves the body tired but satisfied. Needless to say, the nicotine levels drop considerably during this time and the body starts craving the next shot. The smoke after sex, therefore, becomes the satisfying element for the body.
The act of smoking after sex starts with the simple idea of trying it out to see what happens and before you know it, it becomes a part of the ritual. Soon, you no longer even act consciously and your hands automatically reach out for the cigarette stick.
The addiction becomes a practice and the practice soon becomes a need which you just can't leave unfulfilled. The sex itself starts feeling less satisfying if you do not smoke after, as the process is not completed. Smoking, therefore, becomes associated with sex on a psychological level.
A lot of studies, however, claim that the satisfaction which comes out of having a smoke after sex is more of a perception and a subjective feeling rather than a substantial one. They claim that the satisfaction is just in the mind and not really real.
This effect has been seen in regular smokers who attest to higher satisfaction levels after they have had a smoke and compared to non-smokers who do not seem to signify any additional pleasure when they tried having a smoke after sex. So, it may be completely in the heads of those who already smoke.
When the couple has just had sex, the time after that is usually meant for bonding. It is the time where both of them are somewhat satisfied and vulnerable, emotionally. Couples usually cuddle and bond during this period which increases their intimacy levels.
If both the partners are smokers then there is a good chance that they both smoke after sex and they both feel bonded over sharing the smoke. If only one partner smokes then there is a good chance that the couple withdraws from each other after sex and while one smokes, the other just wonders.
Either way, smoking has never shown any significant increase in the satisfaction levels, objectively. The pleasure which smokers attest to has more to do with their own personal preferences and needs rather than any actual effect a cigarette has on their sex lives.
On the flip side, however, smoking not only reduces the sperm count but is also responsible for numerous cases of infertility. The pleasure, therefore, might be momentary and the elevation, for a moment, the adverse consequences may last forever.
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