Many of us worry a lot about even the most trivial things in life but there is a way to train your mind so that the stress doesn't get to you.
A lot of us tend to worry a lot even at the most trivial things in life. We tend to overthink and become engaged in the loop of thoughts. We get so swamped that we feel trapped and eventually feel so stressed that it overwhelms us.
The tendency to overthink, to overanalyze, and to split hairs is something we have become accustomed to over time and have developed it as a habit. It is, therefore, possible to unlearn this and train your mind in a way that it avoids such a loop and the feeling of getting trapped.
Before you start responding to a particular thought, you need to understand the causality. The first thing to do is to calm yourself (takes some practice). Your first reaction to a thoughts sets the tone and, therefore, it is extremely important to not react instantly.
Usually, if your first reaction to an event is negative or explosive, the chances of the thoughts being directed in a negative way is extremely high. On the other hand, if you stay calm for just a bit, you would be able to choose better how to react to an event.
Some people get extremely anxious when they are late for something, some get agitated if their room is messy, so on and so forth. There are, therefore, certain triggers which can make you go off the hook, even when you are not stressed otherwise.
Understand these triggers. Quite often, we are able to cope with a lot of pressure and even when they pile up but we lose it the moment we get triggered by something of low importance. Keeping in mind what triggers your thoughts negatively helps you to react better and in a calmer way.
Quite often it happens that we let our difficult and inconvenient thoughts slide into the background and do not deal with them urgently. We try to forget about them hoping that they may disappear with time.
The fact is that they keep brewing in the background. The inconvenient thoughts keep piling inside our minds while we spend a lot of time and energy on trivial things. This energy is better spent on dealing with those negative thoughts first so that they don't become a burden at a time when you are already mentally exhausted.
The thing that gets us riled up the most is the feeling that we are out of options, the moment a difficult thought hits our minds. Our first instinct is to immediately judge it in a way that it is going to pose problems for us which would be difficult to deal with.
If instead of reacting sharply, you take a moment and think of the options, a few would definitely emerge. The first reaction throws you off track so bitterly that you become blindsided and oblivious to the existence of other options. Avoiding this is useful in the long run.
While we are low emotionally, we tend to shut ourselves and we get engulfed in the overwhelming presence of the negative thoughts. This causes further seclusion as we start losing interest in having a conversation about our thoughts. We end up without support at the time we need it the most.
When undergoing a stressful time, it is always better to seek help from people who are close to you. The very fact of sharing your thought means that your burden gets lighter and also, others can help you see the options you hadn't considered earlier. Support helps!
Negative thoughts affect each of us in different ways. Some of us get overwhelmed while others look for options. It also means that we all have our different ways of dealing with the negativity, suitable to our personalities.
The best thing to do, therefore, is finding ways of calming yourself through things which are soothing for you. If music calms you down, listen to it; if walking helps you think better, go for a stroll. The point is to discover or device a method which suits you and helps you calm down.
Self-awareness is the best way of dealing with negative thoughts. The more you know about yourself, your strengths and your weaknesses, the more you would retain control over your thoughts. Being aware of your personal buttons goes a long way in keeping calm.
The consciousness-of-self occurs through gradual practice and the ways mentioned above, would help you discover facts about yourself which you hadn't considered before. Keep at it and you would start worrying lesser with passing time.
Note: The article is not meant to give medical/psychiatrical advice.