Can you be unfaithful to your partner without realizing it? 7 signs say that you can

Can you be unfaithful to your partner without realizing it? 7 signs say that you can

Where does infidelity begin and where does it end? You can cheat on your partner without ever heading to bed with someone else, and there are so many ways to do so.

You'd think it would be pretty obvious if you were cheating on your partner. Unless you were blackout drunk and can't remember anything, most people are aware of their infidelity. The most loyal people tell themselves, "I would never, ever cheat on my partner."

Some people believe that they would never ever cheat on their partners (Pixabay)
Some people believe that they would never ever cheat on their partners (Pixabay)

Unfortunately, cheating does not always involve getting physically intimate with another person. Sure, that may be the ultimate breach of trust in a relationship, but there are other ways you can cheat that can be just as harmful to your relationship. Here are some of them:

Cheating doesn't always involve physical intimacy with another person (Pexels)
Cheating doesn't always involve physical intimacy with another person (Pexels)

1. Chatting online for hours with an attractive person

When you meet someone insanely attractive that you immediately form a connection with, most of us are reluctant to let them go. You may not entertain thoughts of cheating on your partner, but you try to keep the connection going because it makes you feel good.

You may try to build a connection with someone you find attractive (Pixabay)
You may try to build a connection with someone you find attractive (Pixabay)

If you catch yourself looking forward to texts from the other person, or spending a considerate amount of time bonding over similarities and laughing with them, more so than you do with your partner, then you may be betraying your partner.

Do you spend all your free time texting them? (Pixabay)
Do you spend all your free time texting them? (Pixabay)

2. 'Harmlessly' flirting with someone else

Flirting is never 'harmless.' You may not intend a playful conversation to go anywhere serious, but you are signaling other people that you're not entirely serious about the person you're seeing. Think about it this way: how guilty would you feel if your partner could see you flirting up a storm?

Flirting is never harmless (Pexels)
Flirting is never harmless (Pexels)

No one looks at a married person flirting with a colleague and thinks, "Aww, isn't that cute? I really hope they commit adultery." Everyone judges the person who lingers a little too long, makes way too much eye contact, or lets their fingers brush a little too sensuously against the skin of someone who is not their partner.

People can tell when you're flirting, and they're certainly not amused (Pexels)
People can tell when you're flirting, and they're certainly not amused (Pexels)

3. Trying to catch the eye of someone you're attracted to

Have you noticed yourself speaking louder, laughing too hard, or immediately altering your behavior every time someone you think is hot walks into the room? You may be unconsciously trying to make yourself stand out so that they notice you.

Do you notice yourself acting differently when someone you like is in the room? (Pixabay)
Do you notice yourself acting differently when someone you like is in the room? (Pixabay)

What's even more serious than that is when you consciously make an effort to get noticed. You spend ages in front of the mirror doing your hair or practice suave moves, all the while thinking about how they will respond or react. Even without thinking a single romantic thought, you've already betrayed your partner in your head.

Are you dressing to please someone other than your partner? (Pixabay)
Are you dressing to please someone other than your partner? (Pixabay)

4. Telling someone you're attracted to your deepest, darkest secrets

We all need friends to confide in apart from our partners. It is unhealthy to make your partner the sole focus of your life and not have meaningful conversations with other people. However, those other people do not include former flames or people who make your heart beat faster.

Do you talk about your deepest feelings with people you are attracted to? (Pixabay)
Do you talk about your deepest feelings with people you are attracted to? (Pixabay)

The moment we start building deep connections with people we could possibly be romantically or sexually attracted to, we end up opening the door to more serious forms of infidelity. If you stop confiding in your partner altogether, you have already been unfaithful to them.

You may have stopped confiding in your partner altogether (Pexels)
You may have stopped confiding in your partner altogether (Pexels)

5. Complaining about your partner to an attractive person

Any dissatisfaction with your partner needs to be brought up within the confines of your relationship first before you decide to ask your friends for advice. The worst way to be unfaithful to your partner is to bash them just to gain sympathy from someone you like.

You may bond with a person you're attracted to by bashing your partner (Pexels)
You may bond with a person you're attracted to by bashing your partner (Pexels)

Bonding with someone over how much you dislike the person you're with is an unambiguous signal that you are dissatisfied with your relationship. This also signals them that you may be willing to be unfaithful to your partner given the opportunity.

Complaining about your partner can signify that you may be open to cheating (Pexels)
Complaining about your partner can signify that you may be open to cheating (Pexels)

6. Going out alone with someone you think is attractive

Instead of spending quality time with your partner and strengthening your relationship, you may sometimes decide to invest in someone else who makes you feel good. You may like the attention, or they may be more attractive to you than your partner.

You may spend a lot of time alone with someone you think is attractive (Pexels)
You may spend a lot of time alone with someone you think is attractive (Pexels)

By taking time, that rightfully belongs to your partner and giving it to someone they would certainly object to you meeting, you can end up hurting your partner. Plus, all that time alone can make it so much easier for things to progress to the bedroom.

Spending so much time with someone else can make it easier for you to cheat (Pexels)
Spending so much time with someone else can make it easier for you to cheat (Pexels)

7. Fantasizing about someone else while you're getting intimate with your partner

Have you ever fantasized about someone else while getting intimate with your partner? If you seriously don't think that's a betrayal of their trust, then it's time to get rid of the illusion because that certainly constitutes being unfaithful.

Do you fantasize about other people when you're getting intimate? (Pexels)
Do you fantasize about other people when you're getting intimate? (Pexels)

Actions always begin with thoughts. Even if you have no way of getting with the person you're thinking of, you're misleading your partner into believing that they're the one you want, and you may be willing to sleep with the other person given the chance.

You may be willing to cheat on your partner if the opportunity arises (Pexels)
You may be willing to cheat on your partner if the opportunity arises (Pexels)
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