Are you a nice person? 6 problems nice people experience everyday

Are you a nice person? 6 problems nice people experience everyday

If you are a nice person, you tend to look down upon yourself because that is how you justify the meaning of being "nice".

Every day you meet different kinds of people - while going to work, when you share a cab, when you're walking down the streets and many such places. There are times when you experience kindness from some, goodness from some, hatred from some and annoyance from some. You feel delighted when you meet anyone who is kind to you, or you feel proud to be that kind and nice person to other people.

However, there are pros and cons that get tagged along with whatever kind of person you are. You often feel guilty or feel boasted if you consider yourself someone who is "nice".

If you are a nice person, you have to go through a lot in life (Pexels)
If you are a nice person, you have to go through a lot in life (Pexels)

But the truth is, there is no harm in accepting the kind of person you are. You are a nice person, and it is not an appreciation, it is a fact.

You take yourself for granted because you feel being nice means not speaking up for yourself  (Pexels)
You take yourself for granted because you feel being nice means not speaking up for yourself  (Pexels)

But there are things you need to understand and remember being a nice person. Being a nice person comes with a lot of consequences. There might be times that you end up feeling hurt and sadly most of the time because people tend to take nice people for granted.

You feel that if you say what you feel to someone else, they might feel you are rude (Pexels)
You feel that if you say what you feel to someone else, they might feel you are rude (Pexels)

If you are a nice person, you will want to make everyone's life around you comfortable. However, there are things you need to know about that might be dangerous for you if you are a nice person.

1. You keep things in your heart even if you are hurt

You don't share things because you don't know nice people can do that or not (Pexels)
You don't share things because you don't know nice people can do that or not (Pexels)

There is a reason why people like taking you for granted and enjoy taking advantage of you because you do not show if anything makes you feel uneasy or uncomfortable.

Because of which, you end up hurting yourself (Pexels)
Because of which, you end up hurting yourself (Pexels)

You wire your mind according to how other people want things, completely forgetting about your own hurt, misery, and problems, which can never be good for your mental peace.

2. You look for escapes

In order to avoid hurt and pain, you run away from it (Pexels)
In order to avoid hurt and pain, you run away from it (Pexels)

There are times when in order to ignore the hurt or escape the pain to completely overwhelm you, you hop on things that will your mind keep intact and busy. You might want to run away in order to avoid some situations to affect you.

You either travel or you just keep yourself busy (Pexels)
You either travel or you just keep yourself busy (Pexels)

You, therefore, spend exhausting time at work, or if you are emotionally broken, then you go out for casual dates and one night stands. However, everything just stays still because when you are done escaping from things, you feel miserable and pathetic about it.

3. You criticize yourself more often

Self-loathing is something you do often (Pexels)
Self-loathing is something you do often (Pexels)

If you are a nice person, you tend to look down upon yourself because that is how you justify the meaning of being "nice". You criticize yourself for everything wrong people do, making it your deal and your problem.

You question your own emotions and judgments (Pexels)
You question your own emotions and judgments (Pexels)

Being a nice person comes with a lot of self-criticisms. You end up blaming yourself for everything in life.

4. You feel resentment

You feel shattered when people don't notice your effort (Pexels)
You feel shattered when people don't notice your effort (Pexels)

No matter how nice a person you are, you are a human being who has expectations. You would want to feel loved, appreciated and acknowledged for all the nice and kind things you do for others.

You feel helpless most of the time because you don't know how to undo the niceness in you (Pexels)
You feel helpless most of the time because you don't know how to undo the niceness in you (Pexels)

However, you are most likely to end up feeling bad because all your efforts and niceness go into the vein and unnoticed. Because of which, you and your heart breaks.

5. Frequent breakdowns

Frequent breakdowns become your escape (Pexels)
Frequent breakdowns become your escape (Pexels)

Because of the feeling of going unnoticed and unacknowledged, your heart and mind feel exhausted and weak. Because of which, you experience frequent breakdowns.

You feel saner when you are alone, so you spend time alone (Pexels)
You feel saner when you are alone, so you spend time alone (Pexels)

You either hide and cry or just cry yourself to sleep. However, once you are done or over with that momentary breakdown, you come back to the normalcy of life.

6. You end up making compromises most of the time

Your niceness makes you way too understanding than you should be (Pexels)
Your niceness makes you way too understanding than you should be (Pexels)

Being nice makes you compromise in every situation because you would not want anyone to experience any problems because of you. This nature of yours reflects in relationships you be in.

Because of which, your relationships suffer (Pexels)
Because of which, your relationships suffer (Pexels)

It is more likely that you are the one who is compromising most of the time, and end up hurting yourself, by suffocating yourself most of the time.

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