When love is not enough: 7 valid reasons to leave your partner

When love is not enough: 7 valid reasons to leave your partner

There are times when one needs to look at a bigger picture and rethink the foundations of their relationship. 7 situations when it becomes an absolute necessity.

Our world has never stopped recognizing the need for love in order to live. Abraham Maslow's layered explanation of human needs also includes the need to belong and be with people, but of course, we like to think that the sea of emotions and feelings that we feel for our partner is intense enough to take on anything in the world and is not bound to any theory. 

Love is known to break through the barriers of rationality (iStock)
Love is known to break through the barriers of rationality (iStock)

However, what happens when one begins to realize that their hedonistic blend of emotions and hormones, which go crazy at the sight of their partner, are not going to stay the same all the time? Imagining one's life without their partner can almost feel like life is unfair and the world would crumble without them.

Can you imagine your life without your partner? (iStock)
Can you imagine your life without your partner? (iStock)

However, one may be missing out on other essential components that are needed to make a relationship work. Moreover, if these components seem too distant, then one should be quick to acknowledge that the epic love may need to be given a bit thought to, over even bid goodbye to. 

How unconquerable do you feel when you and your partner are together? (Pexels)
How unconquerable do you feel when you and your partner are together? (Pexels)

"While the idea that love triumphs all appeal to society’s fantasy, to sustain a healthy relationship and overall quality of life, a person needs more than the promise of exclusivity and words of endearment," says Justin Lavelle, relationship expert and Chief Communications Officer for BeenVerified.

Here are some valid reasons to leave your partner, despite there being immense and intense love experienced by both the partners: 

1. There is a lack of transparency

Closeness without transparency can get taxing (iStock)
Closeness without transparency can get taxing (iStock)

There may be times when your important questions about your partner are given a gentle dodge or sweetly spun into something else to give a vague answer, it is wise to take note. Yes, partners can time to get comfortable to share things at first, but lying would still be not normal. 

Are your partner's lies too elaborate? (iStock)
Are your partner's lies too elaborate? (iStock)

Half-truths and lies can be put forth for multiple reasons, however, they all point to the fact that there is still a lack of trust that is hampering proper communication. For example, imagine if your partner lies to you about bigger things than just forgetting to cover the light bill that you guys had agreed on. They may still be very cute and loveable, but it does not negate the fact that a lying partner suggests of something uncanny or a clear lack of trust. 

Relationships cannot last much longer when one can barely trust the 'I love you' that they keep living up to. 

2. You have separate ways to go

Couples working towards the same goal tend to thrive (Pexels)
Couples working towards the same goal tend to thrive (Pexels)

Almost sounds like a scene straight out of a tragic movie, eh? If people began falling for someone thinking about the future of each other's careers, then it would be really hard to fall at all. Couples do have goals, common as well as individual, mostly aimed to achieve a coherent future. 

Do you and your partner share the same vision? (iStock)
Do you and your partner share the same vision? (iStock)

Having common goals also keeps the relationship on track and build up to a healthy and purposeful living. If you and your partner's goals are different, it may invariably lead to separation or feeling of an empty and superficial bond that is being dragged. Honesty is also crucial here. If one does not share their vision with much honesty and clarity, then that 'right guy' or 'right girl' may not even know how you are right for them.

3. The buck that stops everyone

Many romantic relationships break due to the matters of finances (Pixabay)
Many romantic relationships break due to the matters of finances (Pixabay)

Handling money and finances is a challenge known for plaguing romantic relationships. It's not always easy to get past the walls of self-judgment and social conformity and see that money is just a resource. Two entities that bring in the money end up needing a sound management of funds. If one's partner plays a role in determining the financial picture, which is natural, consistency in its relevant aspects becomes a task for both the parties involved. 

How much does your partner tell you about their spending? (iStock)
How much does your partner tell you about their spending? (iStock)

However, if you are coming across more than a few markers of the financial irresponsibility from your partner, it can suggest that pages must be turned. If your partner ends up spending extravagantly and is cavalier with where both your funds go, then it does not paint a promising picture of the 'long-term' that one may be working towards. How long can one love someone who is not interested in their vision and beliefs?

4. Your partner does not communicate

How effectively does your partner communicate with you? (iStock)
How effectively does your partner communicate with you? (iStock)

Communication is one of the key mechanism of survival for most of the species. Baboons and many other primates are prompt in alerting their kind of any approaching threat. Communication plays intricate roles when the survival of a relationship is looked at. 

Does your partner dismiss you often when you are talking? (iStock)
Does your partner dismiss you often when you are talking? (iStock)

Multiple things like when your partner cracks a joke when you are talking about something serious and more imminent that requires their involvement with responsible mindset. Or when they dismiss a dialogue while you are arriving at a logical standpoint/conclusion. It may even hurt sometimes, but one needs to acknowledge that a relationship can be too draining an affair, which can have more destructive ends. 

5. Your partner is too selfish in bed, and no change is in sight 

Are you being considered when it all comes down to the sheets? (Pexels)
Are you being considered when it all comes down to the sheets? (Pexels)

One's bedroom is another arena where a lot of implicit norms come into play. Partners may have myriad ways of getting on with it, one can make it work tremendously well with honesty. However, one needs to spot the difference if they are being neglected in bed.

Are your needs in bed being ignored? (Pexels)
Are your needs in bed being ignored? (Pexels)

Though it may be a drag to look out for markers of inconsistency during intimate moments, one might not need much effort to spot that their partner is not considerate of them in bed. Even if you think that it may work out with more talking, discussions surrounding bedroom dynamics can get awkward and may also end up adversely limiting you guys in bed. However, do not hesitate to end the relationship if you repeatedly see that your partner is not paying attention to your needs in bed and only working to get what they want. It can have long-term emotional effects as well. 

6. The fabric of trust

How many times has your trust been broken 
How many times has your trust been broken 

This may not come as a surprise to anyone, but its okay to find some things to be unforgivable. Our idiosyncrasies make us who we are, and it is justified to expect one's partner to respect and protect those nuances that make a person who they are. 

Has your trust been broken repeatedly (Pexels)
Has your trust been broken repeatedly (Pexels)

If one's partner breaks their trust by doing something despite their confession of vulnerability towards it, it is indicative of the fact that their partner is not cognizant of the effects their actions tend to have. Trust is something that can break in a matter of seconds, but building it back can even take years. If your trust is broken once or one too many times, do not wait to break the relationship. 

How real can love get to overcome problems? (Pexels)
How real can love get to overcome problems? (Pexels)

Countless relationships still survive despite multiple problems and issues. Is it because of love? or does love also hold the promise of change if its real? However, nobody knows how profound can the effects of love be. If you feel you are with the one, and can still make it work, let the romantic in you run amock. 

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