Mindlessly following a set of rules yields no fruit because there is no relationship formula that is “one size fits all.”
There is no fixed formula for a relationship, but social norms have limited what is considered to be acceptable in a relationship. We have accepted the common rules that have been set-up for a relationship and deem it to be appropriate. If your partner or you are escaping the ordinary it would not necessarily equate to ruining the relationship or leading to a split. Well, there are a few unconventional ways to improve your relationship.
These methods might break the conventional chain of thought and be a little uncomfortable and if makes you happy then follow it. Mindlessly following a set of rules yields no fruit because there is no relationship formula that is "one size fits all." Breaking the universal applicability of the set norms of a relationship allows you to explore different options to strengthen your bond and connection.
People have different preferences, needs, personality traits, and baggage. So, this distinction proves that you need to find your space in the vast area of types of couples in a relationship. Well, if you are happy in a relationship and satisfied then the rule should not matter this could be something you try out. In addition, these might seem to be sure-fire methods, but you need to find ways that fit your dynamic and implement these methods to improve your relationship.
So, here are 11 unconventional things that can improve your relationships.
Proximity does not always improve your relationship, but sometimes having a sleep-divorce can improve the relationship. You might need your space to twist and twirl in your sleep or you might be annoyed and awake because of a snoring partner. If this is the case you should grab your pillow and find a different bed to sleep and not feel guilty about it. It can be something worrisome when the two of you are fighting. But if you find this helpful and it improves your relationship there is no harm in trying it.
If you show up at a public event without your partner some people might raise their eyebrows, but it would still serve the purpose regardless of other people’s opinion. It is not mandatory for couples to go everywhere together and do things like conventional couples. But going out independently can prove to be beneficial since it allows you to pursue your hobbies and interests that your partner might not like. Plus, a tad bit of independence is good in a relationship.
In addition to going out to events by yourself, it is natural to have different hobbies and pursuing them by your lonesome self. Well, there is no set rule that couples have to do everything together and there might be instances when it is hard to find the middle ground when you want to do something, but your partner does not. This would help in retaining the autonomy in decisions and avoid any form of the authoritative tangent to a relationship.
Unless you are fighting and have reached an impasse because of which you have chosen to ignore each other, then ignoring each other is not a bad thing after all. It might be socially deemed appropriate to text or call your partner while you're away, but living the moment and the talking to them about it face to face is a better option. Though constantly texting can seem to be a romantic gesture, but the distance would evoke feelings that would bring you two closer.
Being an open book is not always the solution for a happy relationship, but if there is something is bothering you and the weight of that is intolerable you need to spill the beans. Not talking about certain touchy subjects would help maintain the boundaries and it would help you respect your partner's boundaries as well. This would enhance the understanding you share in your relationship and create a safe environment for sharing when you deem fit.
It is not mandatory to narrate your life story to your partner and it might be unconventional, but keeping a few secrets is necessary for your emotional stability as well. It is normal for you to keep secrets about your past and personal life an spill the beans when the dynamic strengthens.
The idea of a solo-trip can seem to be daunting and frightening, but it improves your relationship in a significant manner. If you are in a committed and trusting relationship then it would bring back more to the table than how much you miss each other. They would acknowledge the efforts you put in and appreciate your efforts. This would strengthen your bond and definitely amp up the stress level in your relationship.
This might feel uncomfortable while talking about it, but it goes a long way in maintaining a relationship and retaining its stability. It is odd for couples to talk about money on their first few dates, but being on the same page and avoid future conflicts or disputes. It might also be viewed as impolite, but this could bring clarity to the relationship.
This might seem a bit extreme and you might find it natural to come back and reconvene after a long day and eat dinner together. But, there might be days when you want to be left alone or just do your own thing. If this stands true then ignoring each other for some time is the method to adopt.
This pointer is male-centric since they find it difficult to express their emotions and stonewall when questioned about it. Men might find it hard to express, cry or show vulnerability in the relationship. But, stating that all emotions are okay and accepted would create a dynamic of support and not directly invalidate your partner.
This might seem frivolous, but it proves to be effective in enhancing the communication and reduces the chances of your partner to feel under or over-appreciated.
Distance makes the heart fonder and being in a long-distance relationship for a while can lead you to communicate with your partner by expressing your emotions and feelings in a more coherent manner. This would also ignite the emotion of love and when you bridge that distance the benefits are long-lasting.
There are no set rules for a relationship, but trying different permutations and combinations and deciding what fits and works is the way to sustain the relationship. These might be uncomfortable, but the benefits would negate question of normalcy. Following a certain set of guideless would bring in monotony and reduce the excitement in the relationship to an absolute zero.
There are definitely some rules that would help improve the relationship and maintain a healthy one, but there would be certain methods that do not work for you. There is no obligation to stick to them till your grave, throw them out the window and try something new.