We all have our different styles and things we do after we have been intimate with someone, but there are things which one should never do just after that.
Being intimate with someone can be extremely pleasurable and most of us enjoy the rush of making love. It is one of the most natural things to do and also the most intimate. Being with someone opens you mentally and physically to someone else as their bodies and minds open up to you. And we all have different things we like doing just after being intimate.
While the choice of what you do is completely up to you, there are certain things which are not advised, to be done after being together. There are things which not only spoil the mood but can also have deep psychological or health consequences which you need to understand. Avoiding these after-sex actions may actually lead to a more intimate relationship.
A lot of us enjoy the nicotine hit just after we have peaked. We light up a cigarette and feel the high prolong the high of sex itself. But your body may not be accepting towards it. Your body, after sex, is breathing long and hard and it needs to relax. The smoke not only has an adverse effect on the mood but also on the body which feels unduly exhausted by the fumes.
One-night stands are not uncommon and a lot of us have had the experience of being with someone just for that one brief period of time. Most of the times, both the parties involved know that it is a temporary thing and, therefore, of little consequence. Leaving just after you have had sex may seem acceptable too.
But the fact is that unconsciously, one or the other party does feel a bit degraded and humiliated when the other one packs up and leaves in a hurry just after they have been intimate. If you and your one-night partner are not stone-hearted then at least one of you would feel a bit of discomfort and maybe even humiliation. The best thing to do is to talk for a bit and then leave naturally, not in a hurry.
A lot of the time it happens that one of the partners, either male or female, keeps things from their partner until the time they have been together. They keep some information hidden before and during sex and reveal it to their partner only after they are done. Not the things like, one has a contagious disease but things which may be emotionally strong.
People, most of us, are vulnerable after we have been together with someone. We feel safe and comfortable and we are not on our guards. If at this moment, one of the partners chooses to reveal something which ideally they should have said before sex then it hits the other person hard and may lead to severe trust issues in the future.
Yes, your body is tired. Yes, you feel exhausted. And yes, your eyes are drooping to just shut tight. But going to sleep almost immediately after sex is not advisable. It is one of those moments where both the partners feel unguarded and a time to build intimacy. Talk to each other for a bit and gradually go to sleep, your relationship will grow as a result of this practice.
Once you have been together with someone, you should not immediately become physically distant from them after orgasming. Do not turn over to the other side of the bed and go to sleep. Cuddle for some time or hold them close to you. Immediate physical distancing shows signs of repulsion which could severely hamper the other partner's confidence and self-esteem.
Sex is not just a physical activity as the act engages almost all your senses as well as your emotions. Once you have been together, do not turn on your TV or enter your mobile screens as it shows a kind of emotional distancing which can really ruin your relationship if done as a habit.
You may have had your senses satisfied and may be feeling content and happy but there is a very good chance that your partner may not be done yet. They may still be craving more and leaving them stranded like that is just not advisable. This is one of those times where being selfless is the best way to be and help out your partner to climax as well.
Yes, there are a lot of people for whom intimacy could become emotionally overwhelming. They may just feel like bursting out and they may even cry after being together with their partners. Being emotionally vulnerable is one thing but you should control your emotions for some time as this outburst may shock your partner and they may never feel the same level of attraction again.
Intercourse involves a lot of bodily fluids being exchanged and can be a mess in terms of hygiene. Washing up before you go to bed and after you have had sex prevents the possibilities of contracting UTIs and a lot of unwanted issues which may emerge as a result of uncleanliness.
Having a large meal, both before and after, is not advisable. Your body needs time, energy, and some rest to digest the meal but being intimate requires a lot of activity and work. The two aspects do not go hand-in-hand and it only hampers your digestive system as well as your sleep.
Do not rush off to the bathroom just after being intimate like your life depended on it. Be together for a bit and make each other feel comfortable. The display of rush is not helpful even if it is for hygienic needs. Take a few minutes, relax, and then use the toilet naturally.
Do not, ever, engage in a fight or an argument just after you have been intimate with someone. Being vulnerable and unguarded, you may say things you may not mean and your partner may misinterpret your words. Be cool and if there is indeed an argument brewing, wait for a better moment.