People break up because of a lot of reasons. Whatever the reason may be, no one deserves a break up this brutal.
Millions of pages, quotes, and tips are out there on how to approach your crush, how to make your relationship last long, how to keep your partner happy, so on and so forth, but when it comes to breaking up, you’re on your own.
Breakups are hard, agreed. But sometimes it is the need of the hour to pop the “It’s not working out for me”. Plus, when you’re the one saying “It’s not you, it’s me”, things are easier. People break up for a lot of reasons, like, finding someone new, lack of comparability, distance, infidelity, falling out of love etc.
If your partner cheated on you and is highly toxic, your best bet is to break up with them. There is no rule book or guidelines on how to and when to break up with somebody. The right time is probably when your heart feels it’s time to move on.
And, as far as the “how” part is concerned, breaking up is always one hectic job. Even though there are no such rules about breaking up, here are some brutal and terrible ways you should never break up with anyone.
You don’t love your partner anymore so you decided to see someone else, behind their back? Yeah, not cool. Cheating is never an option. If you are unhappy in your relationship, tell your partner about the same.
Catching your partner in bed with someone else is got to be one of the most horrifying sights, ever. Don’t be a coward. Go tell your partner you wish to break up, rather than doing something so horrible, you scar the person for life.
Breaking up with your partner when someone they care about has died? Satan, is that you? This is almost as if you’re adding fuel to the fire of pain they’re burning in. Be sensible and not so heartless. Wait for them to get over the death of their loved one.
“Hey...Happy Birthday! You’ll never hear from me again” breaking up with someone on their birthday? This has got to be one of the most brutal ways you can break up with someone. Being with someone who’s very toxic is super hard and each day might feel like a whole year, but still, for the love of god, wait for one more day.
Okay. Imagine this, you’re going over to your girl/boy’s house, to break up, and when you get there, you find your partner has made special plans for valentines and has decorated the house with heart balloons and scented candles. Major awkward scene. Avoid the awkwardness, be on the safe side. Don’t break up with your partner on valentines day.
Asking your friend to inform your partner that you’re breaking up with them is just harsh. Breaking up is never easy but chickening out so bad that you ask your friend for help is something people without balls do. Grow a pair. Talk to your partner face to face.
As much as you want to humiliate your cheating partner in public and throw a glass of wine in their face, don’t. By doing so, sure you’ll humiliate your partner but it will be embarrassing for you too. Keep your cool and wait until you two are alone.
A relationship, no matter how bad it is, is between you and your partner. Involving a third person will only mess up things more. Don’t let other people laugh at your relationship. Resolve your issues when you’re alone. Public involvement is stupid.
“Hey. Last night was fun but I'm afraid we can’t keep seeing each other.” Yeah...not a good idea. Leaving a breakup note instead of actually saying the words is just brutal. The other person is allowed to have a closure, too. Wait for your partner to come back home and talk to him/her in person.
If your partner’s parents or relatives are in town or worse, staying with you two for the weekend, bear with your partner for two more days. Don’t break up with your partner in front of his/her family. I’ll be very sad and embarrassing for him/her.
Breaking up with someone when they are most vulnerable is a terrible, TERRIBLE idea. If you wish to end things, at least wait until the other person dresses up. Don’t break up with them right after you’ve made love to them.
Disappearing forever without giving your partner a reason, popularly known as “Ghosting”, is a very hurtful thing to do. Disappearing and never seeing your partner again may seem like a good idea to you at first but leaving without giving a reason will hurt the other person deeply. Don’t ghost your partner out, talk to him/her in person.