Cheating in a relationship, will not just put a dent in your partner's heart but will leave you feeling like a scumbag for the rest of your life.
In the starting of any relationship, love makes everything look magical and your partner becomes the center of your world. However, when the relationship usually enters a rocky terrain and nothing around looks that magical, we tend to have second thoughts about the relationship not knowing how to deal with it. It could be you or both of you.
Because of this reason, both of you start drifting away and look for an excitement somewhere else. It is something that happens with many couples. This coldness in a relationship, suddenly makes you feel attracted to other men or women.
However, when you do drift apart from your partner, you tend to find new friends, romantic partners who can fill the void in your life. This feeling can be mutual on you and your partner's side if things have gone awry between you two. Apart from distance, insecurities about yourself or your partner, being commitment-phobic, not being sure about where the relationship is headed, differences in opinions are some of the major causes for a drift in the relationship. But the situation can be worse if there is no communication between the two.
Howbeit, whatever may be the reason for having an urge to cheat, you must not forget about the consequences. It will not only shatter your partner's trust forever, but you will have to deal with that guilt for the rest of your life.
To avoid that daunting feeling, here are some ways you can try working on yourself as well as the relationship, to avoid going down to that lane where no one is going to be happy.
Do not underestimate the power of a conversation. Talking out differences to your partner can sometimes be unpleasant. It might hurt you or your partner or in some instances both of you. But communication is a pivotal tool to ensure to iron out differences in a relationship. Open communication will help your partner to know that you are getting affected by the apathy and shallowness of the relationship.
Talking with your partner might help in deciding, whether you want to work on the relationship or want to break it off. Openly talking to your partner can save you from taking the easy escape route, that is cheating.
It does sound cliched, but instead of sauntering on the streets looking for someone you can connect with, it is better to put efforts in bringing back the spark which you shared with your partner. After all, there has to be something about your partner that made you fall in love at first place.
To help yourself first by understanding what you are looking for might help you in articulating things to your partner. Your relationship will not work out if you constantly try to run away from putting efforts, because putting efforts is hard and giving up on a relationship is easy. This kind of attitude towards relationship might leave you with no one in your life, as sustaining a relationship is not as easy as swiping right on dating apps.
It is a given that in a long-term relationship, one tends to know each other's quirks, likes, dislikes, and hobbies. But sometimes we tend to give up on our partner as we cannot connect with their likes hobbies. bored.
Feeling bored with your partner might make someone else way more interesting leading to a steep slip ruining a beautiful relationship. Try to interest your partner in a new hobby. You can take your partner to a new place, maybe a new form of gym, yoga, or simply even a course/skill that they have been wanting to learn for a long time.
No one in this world can take your best friend's place. Having a friend who has been with you during all ups and downs of life, will always hope well for you and your partner. They will give you an unbiased opinion about a situation, no matter how bad that makes you or your partner feel.
Talking helps, especially when you are talking to a third person who has a neutral stance. Your friend might remind you of the reasons why you fell in love with your partner in first place. This might help you see through things, differently.
It is very important that you stop, and think, as to why you are having an urge to cheat on your partner. You need to ask questions to yourself, like, "what is lagging in your relationship?", "Is it something related to sexual side of a relationship?", "is there anything wrong with me?" and questions like that.
It is important to analyze things before executing something without even giving a thought because there might be a lot of lives connected with you and get affected by your decision.
Usually, when things go wrong in a relationship, you tend to look for sympathy and affection from your crush or someone you have a soft corner in your heart. It is a dangerous thing to do if you do not know how to handle the situation and maybe you might just end up getting involved with someone else.
It happens because when things go wrong in life, you become vulnerable and seek help and attention from people you are attracted to.
If you encourage yourself in doing so, you might just end up sharing intimate details and problems about your life that would be no less than cheating. Instead, giving yourself some time away from everyone will help you to decide and understand.
Sometimes you might not know what you are fighting or be complaining about. Give yourself time because you and your partner are worth being together.