11 common habits that make you unattractive to your partner

11 common habits that make you unattractive to your partner

Certain common habits that seem harmless can make you less attractive to your partner, which hampers the relationship in the long-run. Are you sending out the right message?

Deciding to get into a relationship is a mutual decision, which is concluded after a lot of deliberation and anticipation. But, there are instances when people are in a relationship not out of love but for convenience. If a relationship trickles down to this state, the attraction and excitement are often lost. 

Dating even after the love has faded away (Pixabay)
Dating even after the love has faded away (Pixabay)

There is a possibility that your partner now hates the very habit that he/she found attractive initially. For instance, you were dating someone who would ask your opinion on everything and would not make any of the decisions. With time, you might shift from finding this cute to overbearing. 

A habit that initially attracted your partner (Pixabay)
A habit that initially attracted your partner (Pixabay)

Well, it does not involve altering your personality entirely, but it does involve avoiding a few specific things that could cause a drift. Putting your best foot forward matters. So, here are some common habits that make you less attractive to your partner.

Does not involve altering your personality, but making a few ammends (Pixabay)
Does not involve altering your personality, but making a few ammends (Pixabay)

1. Avoiding conflict

Always try to avoid conflict (Pixabay)
Always try to avoid conflict (Pixabay)

Conflicts are normal in any relationships and there are topics you cannot mutually agree upon. But, you need to discuss and have a dialogue with your partner to reach a middle ground. If you run away from the sign of conflict rather than talking about it, this would make you less attractive to your partner.

2. Interrupting when they speak

Interrupting while your partner is talking (Pixabay)
Interrupting while your partner is talking (Pixabay)

Being able to express completely and freely is something that keeps the relationship going, but if you have the habit of interrupting your partner while they are speaking, it is worrisome. If you are given the courtesy to fully express yourself, you need to let your partner finish and express themselves.

3. Sending mixed signals

Importance of body language in communication with your partner (Pixabay)
Importance of body language in communication with your partner (Pixabay)

Your body language while having a conversation is important; you should adopt a welcoming posture. Having a contractive body language can make you less attractive to your partner, like hunching the shoulders, folded arms, and crossed legs. In addition to body language, facial expressions play a vital role as they help to understand the subtle feelings behind the words better. 

4. Being busy 24/7

Being busy round the clock (Pixabay)
Being busy round the clock (Pixabay)

All of us have a to-do list for the day and tasks at hand, which we need to do for ourselves. But in a relationship, if you are self-centered and not doing anything for your partner, it can become annoying. Being busy can show that you don’t have time for the relationship, which makes you less attractive to your partner.

5. Giving unsolicited advice rather than listening

Giving advice even when not asked for (Pexels)
Giving advice even when not asked for (Pexels)

If you have the tendency to give advice, whether or not it is asked for, then it can be a put-off. There are times when your partner just needs a shoulder to cry on or a pair of ears to listen to them vent out their frustration. Despite your helpful intention, you should know when to just listen and refrain from commenting. 

6. Excessive hubris

Being excessively proud of yourself (Pixabay)
Being excessively proud of yourself (Pixabay)

We all have moments of triumph and happiness, which is a proud moment for the two of you. But dwelling into it excessively and being too proud of your achievements can make you seem stuck up, which would make you less attractive to your partner. Your partner seeks genuineness in his/her partner and not someone who resides in cloud nine.

7. Disguising rude comments with humor

Masking your mean comments with humor (Pixabay)
Masking your mean comments with humor (Pixabay)

Humor is a plus point in the relationship, but humor at the expense of others or masking your mean comments by jokes is a definite turn-off for your partner. Nobody wants to date someone who is a bully and masks their rudeness with a joke. Saying “It’s just a joke or just kidding” is not really a joke, but it has an ulterior motive.

8. Comfortable in your shell

Being comfortable in your own space and refusing to try new things  (Pixabay)
Being comfortable in your own space and refusing to try new things  (Pixabay)

Both of you would have different preferences and hobbies, which you may like to pursue with each other.  For instance, your partner might be adventurous and love the outdoors, but not you. Instead of shunning it entirely, you could reach a middle ground. Being too comfortable living in a shell and refusing to step out of your comfort zone can be an unattractive feature.

9. Constant cribbing

Constantly Cribbing to your partner is a turnoff (Pixabay)
Constantly Cribbing to your partner is a turnoff (Pixabay)

There might be things that annoy you or make you complain to your partner. This is natural and normal. But if it is a habit that you possess, it can be an extreme turn-off. Constant complaining and cribbing will make you seem bitter and unhappy, which is far from attractive.

10. Too much self-importance

Talking about yourself can be a way to show your vulnerability to your partner and providing an insight into your personality. But, if you have a habit of twisting each conversation about you and making it a point that each conversation starts and ends with you, it is an unattractive feature.

Building too many walls to protect you from the past repeating (Pexels)
Building too many walls to protect you from the past repeating (Pexels)

Indulging in too much self-importance can make it a one-sided relationship and make your partner feel miserable ruining the dynamic. You need to talk and listen to feel connected with each other.

11. Too many boundaries

Everybody has a past that has positively or negatively impacted them, but your past should not impact where you are currently present. To avoid repeating the past, it is necessary to put up careful, but putting up too many walls can be frustrating for your partner.

Too many boundaries can lead to frustration (Shutterstock)
Too many boundaries can lead to frustration (Shutterstock)

She/he is in a relationship with you because they see the best in you; putting up too many boundaries makes it hard for them to be a part of your life.

Feeling unappreciated could bring out the worst in each other (Shutterstock)
Feeling unappreciated could bring out the worst in each other (Shutterstock)

Being secretive about your past or just not talking about it would leave your partner frustrated. It also seems like you are unaware of the efforts they are putting in to be a part of your life.

There are plenty of unattractive features that might make your partner lose interest in you. In some instances, it is one of the most common habits that might have attracted them before but proves to be frustrating or irritating in the long-run. Give yourself the time to reflect on how you might come across to your partner when you are busy absorbed in your own thoughts.

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