7 flirting mistakes that make you less attractive

7 flirting mistakes that make you less attractive

Certain actions can make you come across as completely disinterested or overplay by being the loudest person in the room or being all over the place, which can be intimidating.

Flirting if done right, it can get the person you are crushing on interested in you and yield the result you were aiming for. Being attractive is not limited to your outfit or a good haircut, but it is how people feel around you. Let alone flirting, talking to your crush can be stressful because you are constantly trying to impress. But, there are some common flirting mistakes that drive people away because it withholds your true personality.

Let alone flirting, talking to your crush can be stressful (Pexels)
Let alone flirting, talking to your crush can be stressful (Pexels)

Freezing up or being the loudest in the room to impress a person you are interested in might sound familiar. Certain actions can make you come across as completely disinterested or by being all over the place, which can be intimidating. This may pass off as attention seeking and drive away your crush rather than making her interested in you.

Overplaying to get his/her attention does not do the trick (Pexels)
Overplaying to get his/her attention does not do the trick (Pexels)

Breaking the barriers of communication is the first step to be your authentic self around your love interest. By letting lose you would come to the realization that it is not really hard to flirt with your crush and keep him/her interested in what you have to say. Well, if you struggle with flirting and looking for ways to up your game then, here are 7 flirting mistakes, which you probably are not aware of, but can be a reason that drives your crush away.

Breaking the barriers can help you flirt and impress your crush (Pexels)
Breaking the barriers can help you flirt and impress your crush (Pexels)

1. Closed Body Language

Having an open body language is an indicator of welcoming other people and does not dilute the essence of the flirtatious comments you make. Whereas, a closed body language can be off-putting because it shows restraint and an outright indicator that you do not want to be approached.

Folded arms is an indicator that you do not want to be approached (Pexels)
Folded arms is an indicator that you do not want to be approached (Pexels)

Folding your arms or crossing your legs is a sign of withdrawal and lack of interest in what the other person is trying to say. On the other hand, letting your arms lose or holding a drink if you are at a party, always having a smile on your face, are signs that you are genuinely interested in talking to the person. So, try to relax and loosen up a bit before talking to your crush.

Have an open body language by letting your body lose (Pexels)
Have an open body language by letting your body lose (Pexels)

2. Facing a different direction than the person 

In addition to the common manner tips to face the person you are talking to, angling away from the person you are talking to is a sign of disinterest and shows that you are not attracted to them. The direction of your feet is an unconscious indicator your body gives out as a response to viewing something that attracts you.

You need to face towards the person you are talking to (Pixabay)
You need to face towards the person you are talking to (Pixabay)

Pointing your feet towards the person signals interest, which also sends a subtle message that you are attracted to the person. Keep in mind to have an open body language and face the person you are talking to the next time you attempt to woo your crush.

Your feet need to point the person you are talking to, which is a signal of interest (Pexels)
Your feet need to point the person you are talking to, which is a signal of interest (Pexels)

3. Getting their attention by making them jealous

Making them jealous to get their attention (Pexels)
Making them jealous to get their attention (Pexels)

Making someone jealous is an evident attention seeking strategy that would have a negative impact on the relationship you share and not serve the purpose, Mentioning the other people you are interested into someone you are trying to impress will on driving them away. Also, flirting with other people to make them jealous will only result in you pushing them away.

4. Pretending to be someone else

To get your crush’s attention, trying to be the center of attraction could seem like the best course of action. General ways to do this are by being loud or being funny, which can be intimidating for the people around you and makes the pretentiousness visible. The reaction to this farce is opposite to what you anticipated, which makes it important for you to be yourself.

Do not try to be someone else to impress him/her (Pixabay)
Do not try to be someone else to impress him/her (Pixabay)

If you find yourself overplaying or acting out of character as a coping mechanism, you need to relax and talk to yourself and assuring yourself that you do not need to pretend to be someone to get attention. You need to be the best version of yourself and not the version someone else wants.

talk to yourself to realize that you do not need to pretend to be someone (Pixabay)
talk to yourself to realize that you do not need to pretend to be someone (Pixabay)

5. Waiting too long to text and playing hard ot get

Texting is when you get an opportunity to make an impression and bridge the distance when you are not around your crush. Well, it is important to maintain texts to the proportion of the respondent's reply, but do not take too much time to respond.

Waiting too long to text can send signals that you are uninterested (Pixabay)
Waiting too long to text can send signals that you are uninterested (Pixabay)

Attempting not to seem overeager and double-text does not require you to wait for an extended period of time to reply to his/her texts. This might send a message that you are uninterested in pursuing a conversation and eventually they would give up and move on. So, text in moderation and do not hold back. 

Sending texts in moderation keeps the spark alive (Pexels)
Sending texts in moderation keeps the spark alive (Pexels)

6. Playing mind games

This is a common mistake that people have been doing by sending mixed signals assuming that it would spark curiosity and keep the other person interested. But, being manipulative with your statements is going to drive him/her away because they eventually lose interest. Hoping that your secret or rather a telepathic message dawns on them is futile, well, if you like someone does not be afraid to show it.

Being manipulative with what you say can make them lose interest (Pexels)
Being manipulative with what you say can make them lose interest (Pexels)

In addition to mind games, you might tend to show interest by not showing interest under the pretext of playing it cool. This would eventually drive him/her away because of your ignorance and definitely signal that you are uninterested. You need to be clearer about your feelings and not try to manipulate your crush’s thoughts thinking that they will get the message.

SHowing interest by not showing interest is not a good strategy (Pixabay)
SHowing interest by not showing interest is not a good strategy (Pixabay)

7. Moving too fast

Intruding their personal space too soon can drive them away (Pexels)
Intruding their personal space too soon can drive them away (Pexels)


This is misconstrued as a quick way to establish a rapport and bond with your crush, but it does exactly the opposite. You need to let things take their natural course and any attempts to pace things would make the other person lose interest too soon. Well, approaching them too aggressively can make the other person uncomfortable if your rapport has not been established yet. Do not rush into things and let the emotional bond establish with time.

There is no set formula to flirt perfectly. The one thing that would never cease to impress is being yourself. Do not alter your personality as you would tend to lose your identity. This would make it a daunting task while you should be enjoying the process. Well, just treat the other person the way you would like to be treated.

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