It makes no sense to tell a woman to stop acting like a "typical wife" because there is no such thing like that. What if a woman comes and tells you to stop acting like a man?
There's no denying that marriage is one of the most important milestones in our life. While some take their time, explore the world and themselves and then take the big decision, some just do it, under societal pressure. In both ways what really matters is the life that both of them build after the marriage.
Whether love or an arranged marriage, it does take a lot of efforts when you start living with another person. As much as marriage memes and jokes crack us up, to sustain the relationship it takes a lot of hard work, understanding, dedication and sometimes letting go off things. Once you are married, you both will have to deal with every twist and turns that go into your partner's mood, expectations and all!
Both men and women have different expectations from each other. But, what about some weird and unrealistic expectations sometimes we have from our partner? It sure makes everything around us confusing and weird, to say the least.
These weird expectations not just stress the partner but it also affects the relationship. The partner on who is supposed to fulfill these expectations feels bogged down. Sometimes we feel that our expectations are the same as our partner's, and start assuming that we aren't expecting too much from them. It is important to understand that none of us is a mind reader and we need to take the time to understand each other and speak up against those unrealistic expectations.
So we list down some of the most unrealistic things husbands expect from their wives:
Now, now we understand your concern for your wives to stay fit, but expecting them to be like models in a tad bit too much. After working throughout the week and meeting their targets and deadlines, generally, women like to make the most of the weekend. From dishes, diapers, stocking up groceries, making the coming week's meal plan there are a million things to do, before getting back to another stressful week.
It's unfair to ask her to look like a model after such a tiring week is too much. What's important to sustain the marriage is that both of them take equal parts in household chores. Let her take some 'me' time to unwind and relax. Maybe you both can go for a walk, cycling or swimming together in order to stay fit and spend time with each other.
You might have watched those romantic movies in which couples understand what goes into each other's mind without having to say anything at all. The truth is, it doesn't happen in reality pretty often. It is not how things work in real life because life isn't a movie script. Since men sometimes find it difficult to articulate and express what goes inside their mind, it is the same for women as well. The only difference is one of you would talk about it and the other would expect their spouse to read their mind.
Men use this as an excuse to dodge conversations, or they expect women to know what is going inside their mind without telling them or even hinting them about it. Well, if you are expecting your wife to understand what's going on in your mind without giving a hint to her, then you are justing putting yourself through a tough time. Be vocal about what you want and keep the guesswork for some another occasion.
We all have bad days at work, and so does our partner. However, throwing tantrums on your wife would be an unfair thing to do. One of the most important things to understand is the fact that, other people might be going through a hard time too. It is something that one must understand before throwing their crappy mood on someone else.
As a husband, you must know that your wife works doubly hard to prove her worth at work and at home she's again working hard to make a home for you. So throwing tantrums on her without her fault is a totally bad idea.
Well, gentlemen, it is time that you understand that certain occasions calls for certain kind of looks and getting it right take time. By pacing annoyingly around the room and asking "Are you done yet?", "do you need more time?" these questions is just going to take away her attention from getting her look right.
Most people are not born with natural flawless beauty, they need to put efforts to maintain and enhance what they have been gifted with. Therefore, if women can be patient with you during your FIFA days, a tad is expected from your side too.
Husbands need to settle this down, as to how exactly they want their wives to be when it comes to acting in a certain way in certain situations. Some women can either be completely chill and some women cannot be chill about everything in life. You need to stop trying to impose your expectations on your wife, just because you would have reacted in a certain manner in that situation. Again, speaking up about what you are expecting from her in some situations will save you from an impending emotional explosion.
Those magazines, articles, and pictures are misleading. It is not real. Women cannot be curvy and thin at the same time. Both of the body types have their own beauty and qualities. A curvy woman is curvy only because she is not skinny. And a skinny woman is thin because she is not curvy. As simple as that. Take a pick, it isn't that hard after all.
To call your wife a "typical wife" is something that makes no sense. You need to define your definition of "wife" or how a wife should be first. It makes no sense to tell a woman to stop acting like a "typical wife" because there is no such thing like that. What if a woman comes and tells you to stop being the typical husband? How vague does that sound?
While teasing her once or twice is still fine, but make it a habit, you never know when your face would receive a 'flying' pan. Jokes aside, accept that both of you have flaws and strengths, but try to work on each of these characteristics as to sustain a healthy marriage.
Agreed, living together with your spouse no matter how much you love them can be a little daunting in the beginning. Getting to know what they like, dislike, how they like their coffee, how warm they like their meals to be, how chilled they like their wine to be, can take a little time.
Forgetting or missing on small details might not irk her in the beginning, but if you are going to commit the same mistake and not going to make room for new mistakes, then be ready for a showdown. She might forgive you once, twice or maybe ten times, but she is definitely going to explode one day, and that explosion would be something you'd deserve.