8 conversations men avoid having in a relationship

8 conversations men avoid having in a relationship

We all make mistakes and we all have our weak moments. But, what are the things men hate bringing in the middle of the conversation with their partners and why?

Men do not feel comfortable talking about many things when they are in a relationship. There might be several reasons for this kind of mentality. 

Especially, if a man is in a relationship with a short-tempered girlfriend, then there is a possibility that a man hides things in order to avoid the situation turning into something ugly. It could be because either they know what they have done is something really unforgivable, or they are just not comfortable sharing it.

In any case, there are certain things men are not comfortable talking about and will dodge it till the end. Here are some things men avoid in a conversation with their partner.

1. They avoid talking about their ex

Talking about past makes a man uncomfortable (Pixabay)
Talking about past makes a man uncomfortable (Pixabay)

Men hate talking about their ex-love life with their present partners. It is not necessary that, if a man is not comfortable talking about it, then he is hiding something. 

Men hate talking about things that are no longer in the present. (Pixabay)
Men hate talking about things that are no longer in the present. (Pixabay)

Most men understand that talking about something of which their present girlfriend was not a part of, can make them feel jealous and insecure. Therefore, men hate talking about their past love life, because either they have had a bad experience, or there is a chance of his present relationship to get ruined.

2. They avoid talking about their insecurities

Insecure men hate talking about things that remind them of being insecure (Pexels)
Insecure men hate talking about things that remind them of being insecure (Pexels)

None of us like to talk about our insecurities. When it comes to men, they do not like to be confronted by anyone else about their own insecurities. They might look at it as being weak and vulnerable.

Insecurities are dark and unfortunately a dark truth (Pexels)
Insecurities are dark and unfortunately a dark truth (Pexels)

In a relationship, it is often seen that the woman is the one crying and confronting her partner and not the man. This happens because some men might think that if they are talking about emotional things or if they show how sensitive they are might damage their own definition of masculinity. Therefore, in a conversation with their partner, men hate talking about things that remind them of their insecurities. 

3. They avoid talking about the times they 'touch' themselves

Sexually pleasuring oneself while being in a relationship might feel odd (Pexels)
Sexually pleasuring oneself while being in a relationship might feel odd (Pexels)

We all are in touch with our sexual side and we practice it only when we are not around any living thing. Masturbating is something men do and do it often. Being in a relationship might lessen the frequency for a man to masturbate but does not eradicate it completely from their lives.

Therefore, men do not prefer talking about their 'touching' practices for two reasons, either they are not comfortable sharing about it, or they know their partners might feel offended to know and might think that they are not a good sex-partner. This situation is also embarrassing and hurt the partner's feeling.

4. They avoid the future of the relationship (marriage and kids)

Future planning scares men to the core (Pexels)
Future planning scares men to the core (Pexels)

Men fear commitment when they are in a relationship no matter how long they have been with their partners. They are afraid to think about the responsibilities they will have to take if they commit to their partner. 

Men are afraid of commitments and do not like talking about it (Pexels)
Men are afraid of commitments and do not like talking about it (Pexels)

Talking about things like marriage, children and future planning might push a man to think about things which they dread.  Men take their own time to make peace with the fact that, there will be a time they will have to settle down and live with some serious responsibilities. 

5. They avoid talking about things that stress them out

Men avoid feeling stressed while having a conversation with their partner (Pexels)
Men avoid feeling stressed while having a conversation with their partner (Pexels)

Men hate talking about things that stress them, because of which they avoid any such conversation with their partner. They feel pestered every time they are asked about the problems and issues they are facing at work or somewhere else.

There are things they like to keep to themselves (Pexels)
There are things they like to keep to themselves (Pexels)

If men don't want to talk about how their day was, it is better not to ask them or force them to open up about it. They might think that their partners wouldn't understand the technicality of the problem, and therefore, will prefer dealing with it all alone.

6. They don't like talking about their partner's ex

Talking about an ex is not a good thing to do (Pixabay)
Talking about an ex is not a good thing to do (Pixabay)

Talking about an ex can make people uncomfortable for an obvious reason. There is a reason why we call them ex. However, ex is someone who once was a part of our lives and might have an impact on us.

A conversation involving past love life may anger partners (Pexels)
A conversation involving past love life may anger partners (Pexels)

Men, however, do not feel comfortable knowing things about their partner's ex as it is something that might annoy them. Therefore, talking about the first date with our ex or the first time we kissed might not be a good conversation to have with your partner.

7. They avoid talking about things that make them angry

Anger is bad and makes anyone very rude (Pexels)
Anger is bad and makes anyone very rude (Pexels)

Anger is something that has the power to impact a relationship in a negative manner. It is something that hurts both partners and leaves them broken. Men generally avoid talking about things that they know might make them mad or their partner. 

Men fear to hurt their partners out of anger (Pexels)
Men fear to hurt their partners out of anger (Pexels)

Men prefer having a conversation with their partner without leading into any heated up arguments. This is something that is possible for both a man and a woman in a relationship. Men feel afraid of becoming violent while expressing their anger that might leave them with regrets. 

8. They avoid talking about their partner's looks

Men find it hard to compliment their partners when they aren't looking good (Pexels)
Men find it hard to compliment their partners when they aren't looking good (Pexels)

There are times when a man's partner want him to be honest about how they are looking. Most men like being honest and that might hurt their partners if they are not looking good for some reason.

They feel like running away from such situation (Pixabay)
They feel like running away from such situation (Pixabay)

Therefore, a conversation that involves reality checks is something men avoid because they know they might hurt or lie to their partner. Things like "do I look fat?", or "does my face look weird or dull?", or "am I looking pretty?", are the things that men feel threatened to answer sometimes. 

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