Marriage is a huge leap from being in a relationship, which entails a lot of responsibility and maturity. You need cross a few milestones to find out if your partner is the one.
Relationships can take various turns out of which one of them is taking the plunge and tying the knot with your significant other. There is no fixed age or norms that you should cross and abide by before getting married. But, the question persists, how long should you date before getting married? Well, getting married on a whim just when you realize that you are in love can be an impulsive decision not leading to the happy-ending you anticipated.
Before getting married you need to judge compatibility, which could be evident by the similarity in personality traits and preferences. It is not mandatory for the both of you be identical in your habits and personality traits, but have things in common is a good sign and an indication that you would share a long-term chemistry.
The question still remains, how long should you wait before getting married? A year, five years, or six months? You need to spend enough time with your partner and cross a few milestones before marrying your partner to predict the workability and compatibility of the relationship. So, here are 9 relationship milestones a couple should cross before making the vows.
Difficulties reveal an important side of your personality, for instance, when you are broke because money proves to be one of the biggest and common challenges in a relationship. The frequency of being broke varies with age, for instance, if you are in your 20’s you might be broke often, but if you are older you might be a little more financially stable and wise. Let this happen to your partner and see how the two of you handle the situation before taking the plunge.
Stating the obvious, but everyone gets sick every now-and-then, but as a couple, you need to cross this milestone since it reveals personality traits of you and your partner at the weakest and vulnerable state. If you have seen your partner with a running nose and at an unattractive stage, still having the same love for them and vice-versa then consider this milestone crossed and you are a step closer to tying the knot.
Talking to your partner is important, but it is good to have nothing stay and stay comfortable in the silence. There are going to be days where you have nothing to talk about, which is a normal thing. Well, are you comfortable with silence between the two of you? If yes then the two of you are compatible and it is a step ahead. In certain cases, the silence can create a rift and pull you apart breaking the relationship. This shows the discomfort and is an indication that you should not rush into the decision of getting married.
It is normal to find someone attractive or crush on someone when you are in love with someone else and have a relationship with them. This is a milestone that you would cross eventually in a relationship and this puts the strength of the relationship at a test. If the two of you are able to work this out and move over then it is evidence that it is a solid relationship that can translate into a marriage in the future.
This might sound a little bizarre since none of us would want this to happen, but down the line, there are going to be instances and conflicts that can almost tear you apart. It is often said that movies are a representation of real life and this is just like a movie where the couple reaches a crossroads where they are on the verge of parting ways, but do not.
You do not have to create a situation that puts your relationship at risk just to test your solidarity as a couple to test, but you should wait till the time you have a massive argument with each other and still stand strong. This is essentially what a marriage entails spending your life with someone regardless of the circumstance.
Everybody has those days, which has nothing to do with each other, but it is just work pressure or a personal issue. This milestone is one of the most important because it shows how supportive and caring the two of you are as a couple and shows if the both of you can handle each other at your worst.
Adversity tends to bring out the worst in people and is a major test of emotional compatibility. Does it feel comforting to come back home to your partner after a long and terrible day? And d you guys handle each other’s terrible moods well? If yes, then you got most of your relationship sorted and it is a green flag that highlights the positive future of the relationship.
In a healthy relationship, the two of you should not only be there for your partner at their worst but also celebrate moments of happiness. These are other instances where you should show your partner support and be genuinely happy for them.
If they have made their first profit, got a deserved promotion, or topped a university these are the sort of moments you should also be with your partner and celebrate the good news showing that the two of you share great chemistry and marriage can be a possibility in the future.
This is a step that is generally taken after a while in the relationship and once the comfort level has been established between the two of you. You do not marry only your partner, but even his/her family and friends too and their approval or feedback holds a certain importance for them. Getting to know your partners family and friends is an important step if marriage is on the cards.
This is the most cliché milestone, but carries a certain level of importance and shows your level of happiness in the relationship. If you close your eyes and cannot imagine your life with anyone else except your partner then it is time to send out invitations. Crossing this milestone would only be possible if you have been with your partner long enough and not in the initial stages of the relationship where the infatuated feelings might cloud your judgment.
Marriage is a huge step in both of your lives, which changes the dynamic that you share. Moving past the relationship phase the idea of spending your entire life will start to sink in, which is why you need to cross these milestones and be sure that you are with the right decision before tying the knot.