Worried she's going to friendzone you? 6 things you should avoid doing to stay ahead in the game

Worried she's going to friendzone you? 6 things you should avoid doing to stay ahead in the game

There are a few tests that women conduct after which, she would limit interaction with you and observe your reaction. Failing the test would directly lead to the friend-zone.

Your dating game matters when it comes to asking out that girl. There are a plethora of ways to get them to say yes to the proposal. While it is okay if she rejects you, there is one place you never want to be in. Being friend-zoned by the girl you really want to go out with. Although being friend-zoned is not the end of the world, for some it affects them emotionally takes a toll on their self-esteem.

You need to up your dating game to avoid the friend zone (Pixabay)
You need to up your dating game to avoid the friend zone (Pixabay)

In every relationship, both the partners have a certain set of criteria when it comes to being with the 'one.' Men too, have ways to decide on who they want to be based on certain criteria. However, if the girl is being unresponsive to the affection you show, there are two possibilities. She is genuinely not interested, in which case stop pursuing her. Second, it is generally to test you and understand how you act and react in certain situations that serve as a parameter before getting into the relationship.

You need to up your dating game to avoid the friend zone (Pixabay)
You need to up your dating game to avoid the friend zone (Pixabay)

It also a way to get an insight about your personality, for instance, if you are too desperate or too needy then the girl is walking the other way. There are a few tests that women put you through and failing the test would directly lead to the friend-zone. After which, she would limit interaction with you. So if you want to take a chance and see how far things go with her and not being friend-zoned, then these tips will help you to make your way through.


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1. You are trying too hard

It is common for guys to go all out to impress a girl by doing things that break character and not being yourself. Keeping it real is important since a girl would notice that you are not being yourself and the pretentiousness would be discovered.

Being too needy or trying too hard to get her affection (Pixabay)
Being too needy or trying too hard to get her affection (Pixabay)

As a consequence, she would retract and observe your reaction. If you jump the gun and react showing your desperation or neediness then you have failed. You just have to be yourself and not put on a flamboyant or pretentious farce to get her attention or draw her towards you.

She will judge your reaction from afar (Pixabay)
She will judge your reaction from afar (Pixabay)

2. You are being too clingy

Texting all day or talking over the phone for hours is a normal thing that keeps the excitement going and the spark alive. But, if this is driven by you and she is not that responsive, then you need to watch out. They have a radar of sorts that and if she thinks that you are getting clingy in any manner, then she is going to pull away.

Being too needy or desperate in the relationship (Pexels)
Being too needy or desperate in the relationship (Pexels)

This would begin the test, which would assess your reaction and if they get a hint that you are clingy then you have failed. The best solution to this problem is hinting subtly that you repel from clingy people by sliding it into conversations and making your intentions clear. This would play an important role in changing the perception she has made about you.

Making it clear by subtly signaling in your conversations (Pexels)
Making it clear by subtly signaling in your conversations (Pexels)

3. You are trying to be cool

This is another extreme measure that men do not realize that it does not up their game. If you are you are playing it cool by showing that is not too needy then she will find chinks in your armor and discredit the effort. Additionally, if you think that you are doing a great job at being cool about things, beware that it is the time you are being tested.

Trying to be too cool and make her lose interest (Pexels)
Trying to be too cool and make her lose interest (Pexels)

Well, the same pattern can be noticed, as she withdraws and observes your reaction, but keeping the mystery alive and not giving can save you from the friend-zone. The mystery would create curiosity and retain the excitement in the dynamic that will drive her towards you rather than repelling.

Playing hard to get can drive her away (Pexels)
Playing hard to get can drive her away (Pexels)

4. You are being overly nice

This is a common mistake that men make, being overly nice to a woman, which might lead to indulging in her personal space. There is a fine line between being nice to someone you are romantically inclined to and being overly nice. This is not a test, but an established habit that you become the one who she runs too. Do not be the guy who is the shoulder to cry on and helps her deal with issues with other men.

Being too nice will lead you towards the friend zone (Pexels)
Being too nice will lead you towards the friend zone (Pexels)

This would make her look at you someone she can talk to, which someone does with their boyfriend. When she gets something without making you her boyfriend then you should understand you have fallen prey to the friend zone. This would also come across as desperate and too needy to get her affection. If any romantic feelings existed it would fade away slowly.

Being too nice can make you her shoulder to cry on (Pixabay)
Being too nice can make you her shoulder to cry on (Pixabay)

5. You do not have clear intentions

Well, beating around the bush will not send her a telepathic message that you like her, instead of putting them out there would serve the purpose. Unless you indicated or tell her that you are into her, she is not going to know what your intentions are. This is something you might do if you are afraid to approach a girl or express your romantic interests to her. 

Having your expectations clearly charted out can drive you
away from the friend zone (Pexels)
Having your expectations clearly charted out can drive you
away from the friend zone (Pexels)

Well, expressing explicitly what you want from the dynamic can help avoid the friend-zone. You should not go to the other end of the spectrum either and aggressively pursue her, but you should ensure that she is fully aware of what your intentions are in the relationship. If she is not interested then you need to stop investing your emotions in someone who will not reciprocate your emotions.

Having your expectations clearly charted out can drive you
away from the friend zone (Pexels)
Having your expectations clearly charted out can drive you
away from the friend zone (Pexels)

6. Looks do matter

One of the main reasons why one is friendzone is because one does not find the other attractive. Thinking that looks do not matter can be a noble mindset, but subconsciously it does matter and skews your decision to an extent. There is no other way to combat this other than bettering yourself and making yourself more attractive physically and psychologically.

Not grooming yourself can show that you are not interested, which
would push you to the friend zone (Pixabay)
Not grooming yourself can show that you are not interested, which
would push you to the friend zone (Pixabay)

Rather than a test, this is more of criteria that would lead to a decision. Improving your grooming, clothing and body language would definitely give out a sign that you are someone they can think of being with. Don't change overnight but let the change come in subtly. Better yourself to impress them.

Improving your grooming and body language can up your game (Pexels)
Improving your grooming and body language can up your game (Pexels)

If you display these qualities or signs then either she is going to put you up for a test or you are sending signals that you are not interested. Basically, it is either you are driving yourself to the friend zone or certain aspects of you that does not let her see you any other way.

Keeping the exchanging of feelings moderate and not giving away too much information immediately can create curiosity and light a spark that would make her want to stay in the dynamic.


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So stay cool and gradually work your way through. Although always remember that if she's not interested, then there's no point wasting your time in pursuing her. 

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