13 things women want men to know about being pregnant

13 things women want men to know about being pregnant

Pregnancy can be a roller coaster ride for everyone involved, but nothing compares to what expecting mothers have to go through in the long months before they give birth.

If you're experiencing the pregnancy of a partner for the first time, then you have absolutely no idea what to expect. Watching all those hilarious Hollywood rom coms about expecting a child certainly did not prepare you for the moment you found out you were going to be a father.

Few things prepare parents to deal with a pregnancy. (Pexels)
Few things prepare parents to deal with a pregnancy. (Pexels)

Or you may just be a guy with a gal pal who suddenly announces to you that she's going to have a baby. What do you say? How do you react? What is an appropriate and inoffensive thing to say? What are the safe areas to stick to and the dangerous ground to tread carefully on?

You may be unsure of how to be around an expecting partner or friend. (Pixabay)
You may be unsure of how to be around an expecting partner or friend. (Pixabay)

The best place to probably find the answers to those questions are with other women who have gone through the same thing before, and are willing to open up about what helped and what didn't help when they were pregnant. Here's everything women want you to know about being pregnant.

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1. Keep your opinions about the size of her bump to yourself

"My you're coming along quite nicely," is certainly not something a pregnant woman wants to hear, as she is quite painfully aware of the transformation her body has been undergoing ever since her uterus found out it was going to have a baby. Even a "You don't look 9 months pregnant at all" may not be encouraging to some women, especially those who have been mistaken for being just that all their lives.

Avoid commenting on the size of her bump. (Pixabay)
Avoid commenting on the size of her bump. (Pixabay)

2. Tell her she looks beautiful

Women who are seeing their body change in ways they've never experienced before may be struggling to accept their new avatar as attractive and beautiful, so reminding them that they are can go a long way to reassuring them that they are just as beautiful as ever.

Tell her how beautiful she looks. (Pixabay)
Tell her how beautiful she looks. (Pixabay)

3. Be excited when she's gushing about her baby

Some pregnant women are obsessing over every little milestone that their baby is undergoing, and every bit of news is just as amazing as the last one. It may or may not be exciting for you to hear about all this, but share in the joy and enthusiasm that they are feeling.

Share in her enthusiasm about the baby's development. (Pixabay)
Share in her enthusiasm about the baby's development. (Pixabay)

4. Be patient with her mood swings

Pregnancy brings a host of hormonal changes, creating a chaotic internal environment for expecting women. As hard as they try to stay in control of their emotions, they are prone to experiencing sudden mood swings and emotional ups and downs, especially given the amount of stress their bodies are going through. Remember to be understanding and patient.

Be patient with her mood swings. (Pixabay)
Be patient with her mood swings. (Pixabay)

5. She will get tired a lot more easily

Don't plan long days or late night activities without consulting her first, as she may feel a lot more tired than she usually gets. Having a second human being to feed and support can be taxing on the body's systems, and she may not have as much energy as she normally does, so be considerate of that.

She may feel tired more easily. (Pixabay)
She may feel tired more easily. (Pixabay)

6. Be helpful but don't do everything for her

While an expecting mother certainly would appreciate all offers to help, especially when she needs it the most, treating her as if she were completely incapable of working or moving around can be frustrating. If she tells you that she doesn't need your help, respect her and let her carry that heavy box or bend down to pick up that fallen tray.

Be helpful but don't do everything for her. (Pixabay)
Be helpful but don't do everything for her. (Pixabay)

7. Hands off the chest

Your partner's breasts have certainly gone through some changes, and they may not be very pleasant for her. Her breasts may feel very sensitive and painful as they are swollen, so do not approach them unless she requests you to or permits you to, and even then, be extremely careful in how you handle them.

Make sure to be careful around her breasts. (Pixabay)
Make sure to be careful around her breasts. (Pixabay)

8. Offer to give her a massage as often as possible

The aches and pains that come with having to carry another human being around while your body is going through so many physical changes never really go away. Massaging her feet or her shoulders will help relieve much of that stress and muscular tension that builds up on a daily basis.

Give her a massage every chance you get. (Pexels)
Give her a massage every chance you get. (Pexels)

9. Talk to her about your worries about the baby and parenthood

An expecting mother and her partner are likely to be equally going through an insane amount of emotional turmoil and anxiety about the health of their child, how the baby will turn out, what to do once the baby is born, and whether or not they will be good parents. Talking to each other about that can help relieve some of the burden of the stress and anxiety.

Talk to each other about your concerns about parenthood. (Pexels)
Talk to each other about your concerns about parenthood. (Pexels)

10. Approach sex with care

If your pregnant partner agrees to or seeks out sexual intimacy with you, make sure that you pay close attention to her requests during sex and treat her with care. She may not be comfortable with you touching certain parts that are sensitive, or she may want you to handle her gently, so be extremely attentive and be communicative during sex.

Approach sex with care. (Pexels)
Approach sex with care. (Pexels)

11. Do everything she says at the time of childbirth

From the moment her water breaks, all hell breaks lose, and she is thrust into one of the most difficult, painful experiences she will ever go through in her life. Do everything she says and listen to everything she says, no matter how difficult or stressful, as she needs your utmost support at this moment.

Do everything she says from the moment her water breaks. (Pixabay)
Do everything she says from the moment her water breaks. (Pixabay)

12. Give her time to get back to normal after giving birth

Some women have an insane amount of strength and resilience and are seen walking about and resuming their regular activities merely a few days after giving birth. Everyone takes their own time to recover from the traumatic process of childbirth, and she may need the time to regain her energy. Be there for her and avoid burdening her with the expectation to get back to work immediately or be a supermom.

Give her time to rest and recuperate after she gives birth. (Pixabay)
Give her time to rest and recuperate after she gives birth. (Pixabay)

13. Expect to have to set aside your needs for a while after the baby is born

As difficult as pregnancy is are the months following childbirth when new parents are up all night trying to calm their babies enough to get them to sleep, or feeding at odd hours of the night. If she isn't keen on getting right back to having sex, it's a perfectly reasonable feeling, as she is going to be extremely exhausted and drained most of the time. Take on a larger share of the parenting duties as much as possible so that she gets some time to rest and recuperate.

Be more focused on sharing parenting responsibilities rather than on how soon you can have sex. (Pixabay)
Be more focused on sharing parenting responsibilities rather than on how soon you can have sex. (Pixabay)

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