7 underrated things you must tell your partner more often to bring them closer to you

7 underrated things you must tell your partner more often to bring them closer to you

There are times when saying out loud even the most underrated thing can bring back the lost spark and romance. These 7 phrases will help you to bring back that spark.

They don't say it for anything that a relationship needs a lot of work. Especially, once the initial spark and romance start to fade away after the initial years. Irrespective of the duration of the relationship you need to find ways to keep the spark alive. Well, there are some ways that would require some effort, but you can say a few things that just seem awkward.

The excitement can fade away after the initial stages of the relationship (Pexels)
The excitement can fade away after the initial stages of the relationship (Pexels)

Not everyone says things that are on their mind because you are afraid of the reaction to your statement. In addition, expressing yourself without any hesitation can be a tedious task, since it requires you to let your guard down and be vulnerable. But that's where a secure relationship comes in the picture. In a secure and respectful relationship, you can say things without any hesitation. 

Breaking out of your comfort zone can help bring the two of you closer (Pixabay)
Breaking out of your comfort zone can help bring the two of you closer (Pixabay)

While it's a given that after a few years the relationship loses its spark, and it is also equally true that one of you would have to make the effort and be the first one to bring back the spark. Well, small gestures, heartfelt compliments, and some underrated statements can help you break that ice and take the first step towards bringing that love back in your relationship. So let's see which are those 7 underrated things that you must tell your partner as often as possible to bring in the same sweetness, warmth, and love back in your relationship.

Do not hold back from speaking your mind (Pixabay)
Do not hold back from speaking your mind (Pixabay)

1. “How can I support you today?”

This might sound strange and make you feel like an employee from the service sector, but this will definitely help bring the two of your closer. Normally you would tend to listen to your partner about your day or offer help for things that they are struggling with.

Supporting your partner through their bad days can bring you closer (Pixabay)
Supporting your partner through their bad days can bring you closer (Pixabay)

But, asking how you could support them can show them that you care about them. It eliminates the guesswork in trying to find out what your partner is trying to say and develop a connection. In a healthy long-term relationship showing concern and supporting your partner are necessary to have a functional relationship.

Supporting your partner is better than
advising them about the problem (Pixabay)
Supporting your partner is better than
advising them about the problem (Pixabay)

2. “Your eyes sparkle!”

Complimenting can be hard in a relationship, since it may come off as too cheesy and feel awkward while saying it. But, openly gushing over their smile or how their eyes light up when they are excited would certainly make them feel nice, bringing back the warmth in the relationship.

Telling your partner that you like how they smile or how their eyes shine when excited 
can bring you closer (Pexels)
Telling your partner that you like how they smile or how their eyes shine when excited 
can bring you closer (Pexels)

Complimenting in a non-sexual way can make your partner feel valued for who they are and show that you love them for things that are unique to them. Well, everybody likes being noticed and appreciated, so, do not hold back or be afraid to make a few mushy comments, even if it is not your thing.

Your partner would like to be noticed and appreciated (Pixabay)
Your partner would like to be noticed and appreciated (Pixabay)

3. “Hug me”

Seeking for affection and intimacy can be daunting if you try to convey the message through indirect ways. You should not beat around the bush or make hints expecting your partner to telepathically understand your need for affection. For instance, if you are having a bad day and want a hug, just telling your partner is better than hinting things.

You do not need to beat around the bush or hint what you want (Pexels)
You do not need to beat around the bush or hint what you want (Pexels)

Be bold and ask for what you want and inability to express can show certain flaws in the relationship. Asking for affection can be weird or rather awkward if you are used to beating around the bush or wait for your partner to make the move. Being direct reduces any chances of miscommunication and sends a clear message of what you want. You need to make sure the two of you are comfortable with it.

Be bold and ask for the affection that you need (Pexels)
Be bold and ask for the affection that you need (Pexels)

4. “Am I smelling funny?”

It is normal to hide your inner weird self around your partner in a relationship for various reasons. But to build closeness in a relationship it is important to not hide your true personality. One such instance where you can be yourself is being open about your bodily functions.

Showing your inner weird self can help better the relationship (Pixabay)
Showing your inner weird self can help better the relationship (Pixabay)

However ridiculous it sounds, but you should reach a point where you are openly farting in front of them. Well, all of us experiences a few stinky bodily functions and your partner should accept you for all sides of you. It is important to show your partner this side if you are planning to spend the rest of your lives together.

Your partner needs to accept all sides of you (Pixabay)
Your partner needs to accept all sides of you (Pixabay)

5. “I appreciate you for what you are”

It is no secret that showing gratitude and appreciating them is one of the elements of a happy relationship. To develop a greater amount of closeness in a relationship, you need to take it up a notch. You need to tell them about the things that you appreciate about them instead of just thanking them.

Appreciating your partner make your partner feel valued (Pexels)
Appreciating your partner make your partner feel valued (Pexels)

Getting specific and recognizing their efforts would make your partner feel appreciated and acknowledged. Recognize the efforts they are putting in the relationship and say things like, “I love the way you do that” or “I appreciate how thoughtful you are.” If you do this often the awkwardness of appreciating would reduce gradually.

Appreciating your partner for the specific things they do exceptionally can bring you closer 
(Pexels)
Appreciating your partner for the specific things they do exceptionally can bring you closer 
(Pexels)

6. “Coming home to you is the best part of my day”

Many people would refrain from using this phrase because they might consider it to be too mushy or a sign of vulnerability. But, this is a subtle phrase to express your affection or a deep sense of care for your partner. This can come off as cheesy. If you are not used to expressing openly and catch your partner off guard. But, it would let your partner know that they are an important part of your life and being able to come back to them mean a lot to you.

Telling your partner that you love coming back to them makes him/her feel like an
important part of your life (Pixabay)
Telling your partner that you love coming back to them makes him/her feel like an
important part of your life (Pixabay)

7. “My ex-used to do this”

Opening-up about your previous relationship is a treacherous path you are treading on, but it is an important element for a successful relationship. Also, if you want to increase the closeness in a relationship, then talking about your ex is an important milestone. The moment you let your guard down and trust your partner with information that you have not shared with many people. Make sure not to do this excessively and regularly as that would send out a message that you have not moved on. Doing it in moderation would strengthen the bond that you share and bring the two of you to close as a couple.

Talking about your previous relationship is important for a successful relationship (Pexels)
Talking about your previous relationship is important for a successful relationship (Pexels)

These phrases should be used in moderation and not excessively that would result in a reduction of the value of what you are saying. Saying these things can be awkward and uncomfortable for you, but have an unimaginable impact in strengthening the relationship.

You need to let your guard down and be open to truly get close to someone and forget about the awkwardness of your statement. Well, if it does not go as planned the two of you can have a good laugh about it after the moment has passed.

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