8 ways to help your partner know you well and understand you better

8 ways to help your partner know you well and understand you better

Relationships need work, love, affection, and respect to make it grow. But it's pivotal to understand each other before. So here are some ways to help your partner know you well.

Being in love is magical and the first few months is all about being in love. However, it all fades out after a few months when the feeling of mush settles down and you start knowing the person on a more deeper level. 

Home is where the heart is (Pexels)
Home is where the heart is (Pexels)

After spending a long time with them, and after discovering things about them - about their nature, habits, and personality we eventually start analyzing things about the relationship. 

That is when you realize whether you really like the person or not. However, there are times when we feel that we will be judged and start hiding feelings that we think can affect the relationship. But, it is always better to come clean and make it clear to your partner, how would you react in certain situations, or how you would like them to behave at certain times and in some situations.

Helping our partner to know us well will help the relationship to grow (Pexels)
Helping our partner to know us well will help the relationship to grow (Pexels)

 Here are 8 ways in which you can help your partner understand you well and base a strong foundation for the relationship.

1. Communicate 

It is always easy to talk than fight (Pexels)
It is always easy to talk than fight (Pexels)

We often skip the talking part because we think, that talking about certain topics might lead to fights and misunderstandings. So, we dread that part and start keeping things inside us, which later implodes. Keeping things inside our hearts is the worst way to be in a relationship, no matter how trivial the issues are.

Talking helps in making thing transparent between couples (Pexels)
Talking helps in making thing transparent between couples (Pexels)

A relationship needs involvement from both the partners as an individual. Not only should they talk about things that involve both of them, but personal issues and problems hold an equally important place in the relationship. One can talk about - how the day was at work or things that bothered you, or what is that thing which is bothering you both on a mental level. Opening up about things helps in making the partner understand what we are going through.

Without communication, a relationship cannot sustain (Pexels)
Without communication, a relationship cannot sustain (Pexels)

It is not fair to expect our partners to understand things without us, telling them. No matter how hard the conversation is, we should put efforts. It is our and our partner's responsibility to make things work together.

2. Take interest in your partner's hobbies

Letting the partner know about things that we like and hate help (Pexels)
 Letting the partner know about things that we like and hate help (Pexels)

One with a love for football or sports and the other with a love for travel - this situation calls for the art of participation. Putting efforts and investing time in things that our partner likes is going to help them to participate in our interests as well.

After all, we love them (Pexels)
After all, we love them (Pexels)

It is a beautiful bond to share where one can enjoy things, together. If one wants to watch a football match and the other wants to go out for dinner, picking a place or a restaurant where the match is been shown, would be the best way to help each other have what they want. Figuring out the mid-way to work things out, that will help both partners to enjoy what they want while being together.

3. Tell them what makes you angry 

Partners should know what triggers anger in both (Pexels)
Partners should know what triggers anger in both (Pexels)

We all get angry or annoyed and it's not a bad thing. However, it is unfair to not let them know what is bothering us. Not telling our partner about little things that irks us is only going to start a fight, maybe an ugly one. 

Anger is a dangerous emotion that can spoil any situation easily (Pexels)
Anger is a dangerous emotion that can spoil any situation easily (Pexels)

Calling them constantly throughout the day can surely make them mad, as it can disturb them while doing their work. Instead of telling our partner in a rude and arrogant way about what is making us angry, it is better to articulate things gently and in a calm manner, and make them see your point of view.

4. Have some "me-time"

We all need some time alone from everything and everyone (Pexels)
We all need some time alone from everything and everyone (Pexels)

One must understand that there are different ways for people to unwind when they are going through a difficult day. Some people prefer their 'me' time, especially when, they want to figure something out about life, career and things like that. This does not mean devaluing our partner's presence. It is normal to stay alone for some time to come back refreshed and a sorted mind.

Staying alone for sometime sorts our mind always. (Pexels)
Staying alone for sometime sorts our mind always. (Pexels)

A relationship is not always about being together. Sometimes being alone also helps, as it helps in processing certain situations, so that these emotions do not come out in an angry and an arrogant way. 

5. Tolerate your partner's defensiveness

Our partner has a certain way to react to a situation that might bother us. It may bother us to the level where we do not want to listen to their excuses any further. However, to understand how to deal with that situation without fighting or rebuking back will help our partner to cool down and then listen with a fair sense of mind. 

After all, love is patient and needs to be handled carefully. (Pexels)
After all, love is patient and needs to be handled carefully. (Pexels)

To understand our partner's state of mind and helping them understand what we want is going to take us to a new level of intimacy in our relationship. To not let the conversation escalate to something irrelevant while having a heated up conversation can only be done, by telling our partner how much fighting affects us mentally. By doing so, our partner might be able to see beyond fights and blame game.

6. Show them your worth by loving yourselves

Only we know how to love ourselves better (Pexels)
Only we know how to love ourselves better (Pexels)

No matter how cliched this sounds, but it is important to love oneself in a relationship first before we love our partner. Yes, there might be times when we loathe ourselves, and we look for our partners who help us to look at the beautiful side of our soul. However, loving ourselves first gives a strong sign to our partners and also a clear picture that about our worth and value. Loving and valuing ourselves first in a relationship help our partners to know what we deserve without them deciding are worth and value.

To be self-aware about things, helps our partners to take us seriously. (Pexels)
To be self-aware about things, helps our partners to take us seriously. (Pexels)

It is very important to understand what we are looking for in a relationship and what are our expectations. To make our partners understand our worth, starting by loving oneself thoroughly might help.

7. Provide solutions to your partner's issues

Be a problem solver in a relationship. (Pexels)
Be a problem solver in a relationship. (Pexels)

There might be times when we are upset and our partners do not know how to comfort us. In such situation, we should not be hesitant to tell them what we expect them to do in that particular moment. If we are mad about something that our partners are discovering for the first time, it is okay to ask for a hug or ask them to leave us alone for some time.

Our partners will know things only when we will tell them. (Pexels)
Our partners will know things only when we will tell them. (Pexels)

Keeping our partners wondering about things as to what will help them comfort us, is an unfair thing to do. Not everyone can figure things out without been told. No matter if we understand our partners without them telling us, does not necessarily mean they will understand us too. People are different and they can learn things about us only when we make things easy for them to understand.

8. Share what are your priorities

There are other things that are important in our lives too. (Pexels)
There are other things that are important in our lives too. (Pexels)

Relationships are something that is always on top at the beginning of its inception, and later, turns into the less prioritized one. It is also possible that after a certain point, partners may feel bewildered to feel less important suddenly, which might be hurtful to discover.

Priority might change, but love remains constant. (Pexels)
Priority might change, but love remains constant. (Pexels)

However, to talk about priorities is essential. Both partners should be okay with different priorities in their partner's life. There might be days when we are not on the top of their priority list, but, if the partner tells this himself/herself in a gentle and sensible way, then understanding becomes easy. Taking each other for granted is not a fair thing to do, however, understanding that no matter what, after all the work and things, our partners will come back home to us. This idea or thought should be enough to comfort us in every single way. 

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