Sadness begets sadness and once a person gets trapped in the loop it becomes difficult to get out. So, what is it that they keep doing over and over again?
Sadness is one of the most profound negative emotions which has the capability if crippling one's soul. It can pull you down and steady break your will until the moment that you start feeling negativity all around you and start losing every hope for a normal life.
There could be numerous reasons behind a person's sadness and it may completely depend on how the person chooses to deal with it but the fact is that the people who get trapped by sadness keep repeating certain mistakes. These mistakes, then, take away their self-confidence and they feel even lower than they initially did. So, what are these things that sad people keep repeating?
People who are unable to get out of sadness, often (not always) indulge in a lot of complaining. The blame game never stops and it becomes a habit for them to complain about each and everything. This, however, they do without even realizing and therein lies the problem.
The habit of deflecting blame leads to the fact that they do not take responsibility for their own actions, they do not, sometimes unknowingly, acknowledge their own short-comings and hence, they can't understand how to rectify the mistakes. This leads to further aggravation of their sadness.
When people get sad, they end up limiting their thoughts to a large extent. They cannot see beyond their own grief and they can be said to stew in their own despair. They spend so much time rethinking their sad thoughts that it becomes impossible to get out of it.
They feel tired in their sadness and this causes them to close their minds towards other possibilities. They feel trapped and helpless. At a time when they need to break the loop of sad thoughts, they keep dwelling on them and this further increases their sadness levels.
A person who does not seek other people's validation is relatively free in terms of their thoughts. The person need not spend their time and energy trying to please others to trying to change their own true nature. A sad person, on the other hand, often tries to seek external validation.
This repeated validation seeking behavior plays negatively. They try to become who they are not and try doing things they cannot do. The chances of failure and disappointment, as a result of this, increases drastically and before they know it, their sadness aggravates.
A happy person usually feeds himself good thoughts. Someone who is happy would constantly try to build on the positive aspects of life and try to put their best foot forward. They would try to boost their self-confidence and ensure that they do not feel down.
A sad person, on the other hand, would wallow in self-pity. They would imagine themselves as a victim and they would convince themselves that there is nothing in their control. This lack of control over the events in their life and the feeling of victimhood traps them into a pit of sadness which is extremely difficult to break out from.
People who are sad usually keep repeating to themselves the very same thoughts which made them sad in the first place. They keep emphasizing on the negative aspects of their lives and they become in a kind of negative self-talk which takes away a lot of their energies.
The looped thoughts keep building up. One negativity leads to another and their entire frame of mind gets focused on the things which aren't helpful at all. More than others, they become a victim of their own thoughts and it starts eating them up from inside.
When a person is sad, the worst thing to do is to isolate themselves. Social interactions act as a safety net and a sad person is usually prevented from falling further when they get in touch with those who love them. The friends and family provide the release which they really need.
Sad people, however, isolate themselves. They keep removing themselves away from society in a way that they even start thinking that no one cares for them. Their self-imposed isolation becomes a wrongly perceived rejection which brings them down to the brink of desperation.
As their isolation grows, they become even more hesitant of seeking help. They start believing that no one truly understands their pain and they keep repeating these thoughts to themselves to the point that they convince themselves of their isolation.
This hesitation means that they miss out on the help in time. As they keep repeating these mistakes, eventually it becomes a habit and they gradually fade into a kind of loneliness which is not only harmful but painful as well. These occurrences, over and over again, make them sadder and to the extent that they feel like giving up.