You start thinking, “I am here, all alone with no one to pamper me, and she is now preparing vows for her marriage??” Accept it or not, you aren't liking this scenario one bit.
We all have friends with whom we have talked, planned and bitched about marriage and life after marriage, haven’t we? You might be the one who has never entertained the idea of marriage any time soon in your mind or, may not have even thought of crossing that bridge ever. Whatever the reason be, marriage was something you and your best friend, were never up for.
Eventually, both of you go ahead with your life and career and do not get enough time to keep in touch. In that span of time, you meet new people, fall in love, fall out of love and are still exploring what you want from your life and yourself. You find yourself lonely without any romantic partner on a number of occasions and console yourself saying that you yet haven't met the right person.
And then one fine day you get up in the morning and see a marriage invitation from that friend of yours who promised to not marry and rule the world with you. You feel choked and want to throw up because this friend of yours felt the same way about marriage like you did, once upon a time.
No matter of consoling helps you at that moment and all you could think is that how could that b*&#h marry before you. The more you see the invitation card the more you go through a number of mixed feelings. Here are some things that come to your mind when you see your friend getting married.
It’s a different thing to see your best friend getting married, and it’s an entirely a different thing to see your friend getting married. You feel obnoxious to see everyone getting married because it’s a normal human nature you feel sick when you see someone doing things that you don’t approve of in your mind.
Just like marriage, you know that your friend will be flooding her social media walls with pictures from her pre, post-wedding ceremonies making you feel all the more lonely. So, you plan to block that friend from every all the social media apps that you both follow because looking at those pictures will only make you miserable about your own life.
You feel shocked to see the name of your friend’s old boyfriend on the invitation. You go through different emotions, like “what the hell, they were together all this time?”, “Is she crazy?”, “One guy, for so long? What was she, blind?” All these emotions make you feel jealous. You feel jealous because your friend survived her relationship with one guy for so long and you have a long list of relationships that died too soon.
By the time one friend of yours is married, you see a pattern forming where all your friends are either getting engaged or married. You start thinking - what is wrong with people in this world because everywhere you look, some of the other people are getting married, or getting engaged and worse getting pregnant.
You hate the fact that you do not have a purpose in your life, and you have not figured out anything about yourself, and here people are, marrying and celebrating their love life. You sulk for not having that someone special to celebrate small moments of your life with you.
You end up thinking that anyone who is getting married apart from you, is desperate. When you see your friend getting married, you want to think that she is doing it because she is desperate and people who are desperate about something, manage to get what they want somehow.
This friend of yours might have been that one friend who has never liked the idea of marriage, therefore, you start feeling backstabbed, because now, you are left alone with no one, and your friend is getting everything just by getting married! How unfair!
You know that, no matter what, you cannot dodge this marriage and you will have to be there to attend the marriage. You start thinking of all the reasons that give you reasons to not go to the marriage, and then suddenly, something strikes you-you have no date, no partner to go with. This thought of getting outcasted by the people in marriage traumatizes you, therefore, you convince yourself to not go.
However, the fact that your friend is getting married makes your weak and you start looking for someone who can go with you to attend the marriage. Down within, you know that life is going to disappoint you yet again.
When you see your friend getting married, you start questioning yourself and look for reasons that will convince you in believing that, the idea of marriage is stupid. So, you jot down points, as to why marriage is for stupid people and you “ain’t that stupid in love” (No matter you have anyone to love or not, ouch!)
You tell yourself that, your friend is getting married because she had no other option. You turn into no less than a sadist by thinking building up dream castles where her marriage gets canceled or ruined and you become successful in your life. Eventually, you announce yourself as the smarter one in your mind. No matter how much guilt you feel thinking this way for your friend, you just fail to help yourself.
No matter how hard you try to stay strong and pull yourself together, you feel a bit jealous of your friend. Maybe a little bit more than a bit. After all those dates and relationship, you haven’t found your soul mate, and here is your friend, getting married and asking you to be he her bridesmaid.
You go to that zone where you start questioning things that you are most insecure about, because of which you feel disheartened as you could be in her place, you curse your stars for not having your name on that invitation card but your friend's. But eventually, you console yourself and find the strength to go ahead in life chasing your dreams.