How to shut down your partner's hateful comments about your body

How to shut down your partner's hateful comments about your body

Body-shaming is something that can really tear down a person's confidence. But you can have some epic comeback lines for the haters. Here's how you handle a body shamer:

When someone body-shames us, it really does affects our confidence. You need to have really thick skin when it comes to dealing with these things. When these backhand compliments come from our significant others, we're usually at a loss of words when it comes to having a way to handle the hurt. But there is a way to train your skin to get thicker. Here's how you deal with a partner who body-shames you:

1. "You've started to fill out those jeans!"

"Thanks! Would you like me to bend over and pick up something for you? Because my butt looks fantastic in these jeans!" (Pixabay)
"Thanks! Would you like me to bend over and pick up something for you? Because my butt looks fantastic in these jeans!" (Pixabay)

A little weight gain has this strange effect on men. It makes them think that they're entitled to lord over how bodies are supposed to look. The best clap back for a comment would be: "Thanks! Would you like me to bend over and pick up something for you? Because my butt looks fantastic in these jeans."

2. "Are you sure you want to wear that?"

"Well, it's already on me so yeah I'm pretty sure." (Pixabay)
"Well, it's already on me so yeah I'm pretty sure." (Pixabay)

Sometimes, our partners think that our outfits should be approved of before we step out the door. It doesn't matter to them that we are grown women who are capable of making our own choices. So if your partner says this, say: "Well it's already on me so yeah I'm pretty sure."

3. "You shouldn't be wearing that."

"I know. It would look so much better on you, right?" (Pixabay)
"I know. It would look so much better on you, right?" (Pixabay)

Having freedom of choice is something that all humans should have. Especially when it comes to the way they dress. It's a personal preference! When your partner says you shouldn't be wearing that bodycon dress, you should ask him: "I know. It would look so much better on you, right?"

4. "Have you thought about going to the gym?"

"Have you thought about giving your perspective a refresher course?" (Pixabay)
"Have you thought about giving your perspective a refresher course?" (Pixabay)

Something magical tends to happen to human beings when they eat well. They have this tendency to gain weight. But for a lot of men, this is a terrible sin. Any kind of weight gain is seen as a threat to their sanity so they have to point it out. Say: "Have you thought about giving your perspective a refresher course?" if your partner ever says this to you. 

5. "That doesn't look good on you."

"Did they make you the head of the fashion police when Versace died?" (Pixabay)
"Did they make you the head of the fashion police when Versace died?" (Pixabay)

Sometimes, we make choices that are based on our personal preferences. Okay, we're not saying that all of them are the greatest, but there is a better way of putting it across. When your partner says this, say: "Have you changed your profession and have become the head of the fashion police?"

6. "That outfit is for someone who is younger." 


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The last time we checked, fashion didn't come with labels, and it's a way of expression for people. Pointing this out hits below the belt. But remember, that: "Fashion has no age. Get over it." You can't have anyone raining down on your fabulousness. Especially if your partner doesn't see it. 

7. "Don't you think it's too revealing?"

"Don't worry I was planning to strip to my undies the second we get there." (Pixabay)
"Don't worry I was planning to strip to my undies the second we get there." (Pixabay)

Women have long been painted in a very sexual light by men. It's something that really needs to stop because there's nothing sexual about a comfortable v-neck. But if your partner has trouble getting past this idea, then tell them: "Don't worry I was planning to strip to my undies the second we get there."

8. "Black will make you look thin."

"Breaking up with you will quickly help me shed 80 pounds, though." (Pixabay)
"Breaking up with you will quickly help me shed 80 pounds, though." (Pixabay)

Looks like physics hasn't escaped you. Your partner suddenly turns into a pro designer, asking you to make strategic fashion choices that will make you look thinner. But if you're a person who likes bright colors, you should shut down that comment with a "Breaking up with you will quickly help me shed 80 pounds, though."

9. "Why don't you dress like (inserts his famous actress here)?"

 


 

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Social media has flooded our smartphones with celebrities who have a team of stylists to help them look fabulous. It's a whole team, people! Your partner either needs to understand this, or you should say: "I think I'm inspired by what makes me happy, so no thanks."

10. "You should be inspired by her."



Do you want to know how all those celebrities manage to lose their baby weight in a matter of months following the birth of their child? You guessed it, they have a team, people! If your partner is pushing you to 'get inspired' by a model to lose your pregnancy weight, tell him: "You should be inspired to keep your mouth shut."

11. "You should avoid 'certain' prints."

"You should avoid women" (Pixabay)
"You should avoid women" (Pixabay)

Men apparently are pro illusionists. They love to tell women what kind of print does and doesn't work for them. Prints are something that a lot of men have a problem with. Maybe it confuses them. Maybe it stresses them out. Say: "You should avoid women" because they can't really talk to them. 

12. "Is the weather confusing you?"

"No, but your constant need to tell me how to dress sure is irritating me!" (Pixabay)
"No, but your constant need to tell me how to dress sure is irritating me!" (Pixabay)

Look, different people experience the environment in different ways. It's a fact. There could be hot days in December, and cold days in July. No one made any rules that dictate what kind of clothes you should wear, and when. If your partner asks you if the weather is confusing you, then you should say: "No but your constant need to tell me how to dress sure is irritating me!"

13. "What will people think when you step out wearing that."

"Hopefully, they'll think I have a spectacular fashion sense." (Pixabay)
"Hopefully, they'll think I have a spectacular fashion sense." (Pixabay)

What will people think, indeed? This shouldn't be a problem, because some stranger's opinion shouldn't matter to you or your partner. But somehow, your partner is more worried about what people think about you instead of telling you how good you look. Tell them: "Hopefully, they'll think I have a spectacular fashion sense."

14. "That skirt is too short."

"Your thoughts are conceited" (Pixabay)
"Your thoughts are conceited" (Pixabay)

Again with the rules! If our knees were really that offensive to the world, then simply look away. But in many cases, our partners would expect us to dress up like the girls from 'Little House on the Praire'. Obviously, this is a personal choice. You should say: "Your thoughts are conceited" to get him to shut up. 

15. "Your bones show in that top."

 "Yeah your stupid is starting to show"  (Pixabay)
 "Yeah your stupid is starting to show"  (Pixabay)

Being too skinny is also something that people are body shamed for. Ironic, right? Being thin shouldn't stop you from putting any body shaming comments to rest. Your partner pointing this out to you is never of any help. Say: "Yeah your tiny brain is starting to show" to get the point across. 

16. "You should do something about that acne."


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One small pimple on your face will suddenly turn your partner into the world's leading dermatologist. Last time we checked, your skin is no one else's business. It can be really frustrating to hear these comments and suggestions, so the next time someone says this to you, you should say: "You should do something about your staggeringly low IQ."

Some of these things are easy to say, but having a partner who constantly berates you for our body is something you should walk away from. If your partner says these things to you, you either tell them to stop or dump him. No one is allowed to make you feel lesser in your own skin.  

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