Before you sway too far with that thought in your head, there are a few things you need to know about showing up at your ex's wedding.
We often see in movies how exes become friends and always wish well for each other. And you get inspired from it and keep on telling yourself that all is well between you and your ex even after the breakup. So when you unblock them and receive that friend invitation on social media you happily accept it. You think, that you won't cringe when you see him saying mushy things to someone else, which they once said to you.
Well, if you think so, then that probably only exists in your head. It is one of the subtlest ways to torture yourself, that will leave you clueless every time you will see your ex with someone else, doing the same things and saying the same romantic words, and being super affectionate towards them as they were towards someone else.
And then comes the most difficult part, they get married before you and send you an invitation to attend it. While you are thinking that it's just a wedding and there's no harm, after all, you both are friends now, you must know that attending your ex's wedding is going to be all sorts of super awkward. You might encounter feelings that will put both of you and especially you in a tight spot.
Before you sway too far with that thought in your head, there are a few things you need to know about showing up at your ex's wedding. Let's start with two words first, that usually you will use, to sum up, the entire experience - bad idea.
1. Your ex's fiance might be hotter than you
Here is the deal. Your ex is getting married to someone with whom they have decided to spend the rest of their life with. And because it is that other person's wedding as well, they are going to make sure that they look the best.
Obviously, looking at your partner marrying who looks so gorgeous/dapper may make you feel insecure about your own looks. Suddenly, you will regret everything from leaving them to coming to this wedding. You don't have to put yourself through this torture.
It is something that is not in your hands. There is quite a possibility that half of the people, including the bride will be knowing about your and the groom's past. Even if the slightest of things go wrong, you might see heads turnings at you, fingers pointing at you and wicked glares eating you, especially friends and family members who never liked you.
No matter how pristine your heart may feel, you might be blamed for anything and everything that goes wrong. Even if the groom sneezes before he says "I do", you will be bestowed with curses that will not let you live guilt free.
Your ex-getting married, not with you but with someone else might make people think that "it is too much to take" for you. Even if you are completely okay, people have the power to make you feel a lot of things which never existed in your heart, mind, and soul!
You will be pitied for being so strong and conjuring the courage to attend your ex's marriage. Why on earth would you want to put yourself through that agony? Agony because, you cannot even create a scene by smacking that person's face who comes up to you and say "You are strong, I would have found it very hard to face it."
You and your ex might have had enjoyed your alone time and might have been naughty at so many places and in so many ways. And surely you both would have spoken to your friends about your oh-so-amazing encounters many times.
While there can be friends who will look up to you and pity you for giving up such a wonderful partner, you might start reminiscing those moments and feel your ex's need around you. Worst you will start imagining your partner doing all those things with their partner.
All this while, you might have been doing good with moving on in your life- nothing might affect you about the breakup and you are happily single. All this might happen because you have kept yourself away from all the memories, and might have kept yourself busy to overcome the pain.
However, things might take a toll on you, the moment you see your ex in alter and walking down the aisle with someone else. It is something that might strike you only when you are present there at the wedding. The point is, that realization might show it in your face, putting you in an awkward situation from which you won't be able to maneuver.
Okay, so here is the deal. Your ex might have invited you out of courtesy because they have genuinely moved over from you (or just to make you jealous, watch that) and that they are completely over you. Seeing you at the wedding might give your ex a cold foot and they might end up doing stuff which they probably shouldn't.
For all you know, seeing you at the wedding may bring back to them all the emotions that were deeply hidden from all. They just cannot keep their eyes off you because of the moments shared with you which they still consider special and cherishes. There can be a million possibilities which can go wrong and you might end up blaming yourself forever. And so to save yourself from all of this and of course your partner, it is better to not attend the wedding. Meet them before or after the wedding, but try to avoid going to the wedding.