How to tell if your friends are ruining your relationship

How to tell if your friends are ruining your relationship

There is a certain type of friend who doesn't have the best intentions when it comes to the people you date. They could easily be manipulating you and ruining your relationship.

A friend is someone you can trust to pull you out of your hardest times. They're always there for you even when you go through a really tough break-up. They have our backs when it comes to getting through difficult times in our relationships, too. 

There could be a certain type of friend who doesn't have the best intentions when it comes to the people you date (Pixabay)
There could be a certain type of friend who doesn't have the best intentions when it comes to the people you date (Pixabay)

But there could be a certain type of friend who doesn't have the best intentions when it comes to the people you date. This friend could easily be manipulating you and ruining your relationship. The intention behind their unnecessary meddling can be chalked down to a number of things: maybe they're trying to be better than you, or they might be jealous. 

If you take a closer look at why you haven't been able to hold down a relationship, then it's time to reevaluate the people in your friends' circle (Pixabay)
If you take a closer look at why you haven't been able to hold down a relationship, then it's time to reevaluate the people in your friends' circle (Pixabay)

Your relationship may have been perfect from start. But towards the end, you may have found that you were pushed into believing that your partner was a bad idea. If you take a closer look at why you haven't been able to hold down a relationship, then it's time to reevaluate the people in your friends' circle. You could have a friend with toxic tendencies. But spotting that toxic friend can be hard. Here's how you know that your friend is trying to ruin your relationship: 

1. They're more involved in your relationship than you are

Your friend seems to know more about your relationship than you personally do (Pixabay)
Your friend seems to know more about your relationship than you personally do (Pixabay)

Sharing details about your relationships is a normal thing in most cases. But there could be that one friend who dives into deeper details. They know more about your relationship than you personally do. This friend could even be updating you about your partner by stalking them through social media. 

You have to be clear about your boundaries (Pexels)
You have to be clear about your boundaries (Pexels)

You have to be very clear about your boundaries. Your friend may know you better than your partner, but that doesn't entitle them to be constantly updated about your life. Limit the number of things that you share about your partner and you. Sharing every detail about your relationship may add to your friend's involvement in your relationship. 

2. Your friend always takes you away from your partner

If your friend takes you away from your new romantic interest, then you could be putting your new relationship in jeopardy (Pixabay)
If your friend takes you away from your new romantic interest, then you could be putting your new relationship in jeopardy (Pixabay)

Your friend came before your partner, which means that the two of you did spend a larger chunk of time together. But the dynamic stayed the same even after you start dating someone you're spending more time with your friend than you are with your partner. 

When a friend takes you away from your current relationship, you have to learn how to put your foot down and say no (Pexels)
When a friend takes you away from your current relationship, you have to learn how to put your foot down and say no (Pexels)

You have to remember that a relationship is not solely you and your partner. You have to still maintain your other relationships, that is meeting your friends and family. But when a friend takes you away from your current relationship, you have to learn how to put your foot down and say no. This could make it seem like you are not interested in the relationship. 

3. They have a habit of over-analyzing your arguments

They tend to deep-dive into your fights, and love to pull out their own theories and conclusions out of the air (Pexels)
They tend to deep-dive into your fights, and love to pull out their own theories and conclusions out of the air (Pexels)

We often complain to our friends about any arguments or disagreements that we have with our significant other. This is normal. But what isn't normal is when your toxic friend makes a mountain out of a molehill. They tend to deep-dive into your fights, and love to pull out their own theories and conclusions out of the air. 

Drawing the line with the kind of information you share with your friends is very important (Pexels)
Drawing the line with the kind of information you share with your friends is very important (Pexels)

Sharing your argument with a friend will help you figure out the solution to your fight. But the best way to deal with a relationship disagreement is with your partner itself. Drawing the line with the kind of information you share with your friends is very important. It's YOUR relationship. Not theirs. 

4. They disrespect your partner

Your friend downright insulting your partner should send up some red flags (Pexels)
Your friend downright insulting your partner should send up some red flags (Pexels)

Pulling someone's leg is all fun and games till those jibes become insulting. Your friend downright insulting your partner should send up some red flags, especially when things are going well between you and your romantic interest. By them so casually disrespecting your partner, your brain will wire itself into thinking that they aren't the best choice you've made. 

The way you talk about a person says a lot about the kind of person you are (Pixabay)
The way you talk about a person says a lot about the kind of person you are (Pixabay)

You have to put a stop to your friends shaming and berating your partner. Talk positive things about your partner to your friends, and discourage anything negative that they have to say. The way you talk about a person says a lot about the kind of person you are. 

5. They don't shy away from flirting with your partner

This could either be jealousy or malice, but it sure is unwelcome (Pixabay)
This could either be jealousy or malice, but it sure is unwelcome (Pixabay)

Does your friend have a habit of warming up to all the people you have dated? You start a new relationship, but your friend keeps flirting with your new beau. This could either be jealousy or malice, but it sure is unwelcome. When your friend starts to flirt with your beau, you need to make it clear that you are not comfortable with it. 

6. Your friend keeps bringing up your past relationships 

When your friend insists on bringing up your past relationships, it could paint you in a bad light (Pixabay)
When your friend insists on bringing up your past relationships, it could paint you in a bad light (Pixabay)

Every time you and your partner hang out with your friends, they insist on bringing up your past, especially our relationship. In all honesty, which new romantic relationship is going to want to hear about your previous partners? When your friend insists on bringing up your past relationships, it could paint you in a bad light. 

Your exes are exes for a reason, so no one should be bringing it up (Pixabay)
Your exes are exes for a reason, so no one should be bringing it up (Pixabay)

If your friend is constantly talking about your past, it could make it seem like you still may have feelings for this person. It really isn't a necessary discussion. Your exes are exes for a reason, so no one should be bringing it up, especially your friends. 

7. They keep telling you that your partner isn't 'good enough'

Your friend keeps telling you that your new romantic interest isn't good enough for you (Pixabay)
Your friend keeps telling you that your new romantic interest isn't good enough for you (Pixabay)

Your friends may feel like your partner isn't good enough for you, but this has to be a conclusion they come to only after they get to know your partner. Instead, your friend keeps telling you that your new romantic interest isn't good enough for you, even though they really are. 

Changing your outlook will alter your approach to anything (Pixabay)
Changing your outlook will alter your approach to anything (Pixabay)

This will set up your thinking process in a similar manner. You'll start thinking that the people you date aren't good enough for you. Negative thoughts have a way of sticking around and festering. Changing your outlook will alter your approach to anything. This is also true for relationships. 

8. They tend to speak about your relationship behind your back 

You suddenly start hearing things about your own relationship from people who aren't a part of your immediate friends' circle (Pixabay)
You suddenly start hearing things about your own relationship from people who aren't a part of your immediate friends' circle (Pixabay)

When someone speaks about you behind your back, the rumors always has a way of finding their way back to you. You suddenly start hearing things about your own relationship from people who aren't a part of your immediate friends' circle. You even hear a few personal details about your relationship being spread. This is possible because a toxic friend is talking about your relationship behind your back. It discredits your relationship, which can lead to its demise. 

A toxic friend can be very deteriorating to one's mental health. If you feel like you cannot handle this situation on your own, then please seek professional guidance which will help you deal with the situation a lot more smoothly. 

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