11 signs your relationship may be holding you back in life

11 signs your relationship may be holding you back in life

Clouded by feelings and the emotional investment in the relationship would not allow you to recognize the negative impacts. In few instances you are better living by yourself.

A relationship is a symbiotic relationship and you probably enter a relationship with the assumption that it would enhance your life. In this equation, you receive and give support, concern, and do fun activities together. The side that you might ignore is that your relationship in some instances might hinder your growth and have negative impacts on your mental health.

It is a symbiotic relationship that should enhance your life (Pexels)
It is a symbiotic relationship that should enhance your life (Pexels)

Clouded by feelings and the emotional investment in the relationship would not allow you to recognize the negative impacts. There are a few instances where you are better living on your own irrespective of the affection in the relationship. In some relationships, you might go off the grid and disconnect with your friends. This relationship-centric attitude could reset goals result in you losing your individualistic identity.

Clouded by emotion you would not know what to do (Pixabay)
Clouded by emotion you would not know what to do (Pixabay)

This would lead to feelings of resentment in the future and kill the spark in the relationship. It is essential to make time for yourself in a relationship. The first step to regaining control is being aware of these signs and taking the appropriate action following the awareness. Look out for these signs to know if your relationship is holding you back in life.

Not having time for yourself would lead to feelings of resentment in the future and kill the spark in the relationship (Pexels)
Not having time for yourself would lead to feelings of resentment in the future and kill the spark in the relationship (Pexels)

1. You feel stagnated in your career

You might feel that you are not progressing in your career (Pexels)
You might feel that you are not progressing in your career (Pexels)

A good work and life balance is necessary to enjoy the best of both worlds. If you find yourself stuck in your career because you are not able to give enough time to work or are distracted because of your new-found love can be indicators of a bad relationship. With most of your attention diverted towards the relationship, your chances of progress might be reduced.

2. You have cut yourself off from the rest of the world

In some instances you might cut off from your social circle (Pexels)
In some instances you might cut off from your social circle (Pexels)

This a common trait found in a few people who are in a relationship. They disappear into thin air when they get into a relationship and resurface when they are single. Well, if you are constantly abandoning your social circle because of your relationship, then your relationship is probably holding you back. You need to retain your set of friends and a side-benefit is that you would be able to retain your individualistic identity and not be defined by your partner.

3. The relationship takes a toll on your health

The change in habits and lifestyle would take a toll on your health (Pixabay)
The change in habits and lifestyle would take a toll on your health (Pixabay)

There are relationships where you feel that your health is suffering due to the change in your eating habits or rather lifestyle habits. You need to set boundaries that would help stay away from indulging in unhealthy habits. For instance, if your partner is a junk food lover and drinks a lot you need to set ground rules that would allow you to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

4. You do not feel passionate about things anymore

You might begin to lose passion with regards to your career and future life plans (Pexels)
You might begin to lose passion with regards to your career and future life plans (Pexels)

Investing time in your relationship would divert your energy and focus towards your partner making your life relationship-centric. Soon, you might begin to lose passion with regards to your career and future life plans. This could be an outcome of loss of control over your decisions making it a one-sided relationship.

5. Your future-plans have become a blur

You are uncertain of your future plans after getting into the relationship (Pexels)
You are uncertain of your future plans after getting into the relationship (Pexels)

It is important to have a rough long-term plan for the future with your partner. This would give direction to your relationship and not make your life aimless. This would give you stability in your relationship and give you room to formulate your own plans. Well, if your relationship is aimless and you are not able to make your own plans then, it is time to reconsider the relationship. It is important to have future goals and it is vital to set personal goals and as a couple.

6. Your partner does not support your interests

Every person has their own hobbies and preferences, which make them
happy and might be their passion (Pexels)
Every person has their own hobbies and preferences, which make them
happy and might be their passion (Pexels)

Every person has their own hobbies and preferences, which make them happy and might be their passion. But, if your partner does not support your interests then it can also mean that they do not like the things that make you happy. They are sabotaging your happiness in a certain way. A glaring red-flag would be if they ask you to quit or drop these hobbies and interests.

7. You are being financially drained

Money is the most important factor that you should consider in a relationship. If your relationship is draining you financially and driving you to spend an absurd amount money then, you need to walk through the front door!

Money is the most important factor that you should consider in a relationship (Pexels)
Money is the most important factor that you should consider in a relationship (Pexels)

Well, if you have to toil extra to pay for the fancy dinners or concerts that the two of you go to then, you need to reevaluate your relationship. A way to sustain the relationship and yet remain financially stable is, talking to your partner about the financial situation by clearly stating your stance in the relationship.

You need to talk to your partner if the relationship is financially draining you (Pexels)
You need to talk to your partner if the relationship is financially draining you (Pexels)

8. You cannot say “No”

You might be constantly persuaded to push your boundaries (Pixabay)
You might be constantly persuaded to push your boundaries (Pixabay)

It is important you have certain boundaries set in the relationship. If you are constantly persuaded or pressured to break those boundaries and do things that do not make you happy then, you need to talk to your partner or consult a professional. Making small boundaries and firmly setting them is a better solution than forming a huge boundary by leaving.

9. You feel judged all the time

If your partner does not accept you for who you are then, it will lead you 
to feel that you are constantly judged (Pixabay)
If your partner does not accept you for who you are then, it will lead you
to feel that you are constantly judged (Pixabay)

The two of you need to accepting and supportive in a relationship. Well, if your partner does not accept you for who you are then, it will lead you to feel that you are constantly judged. You expect to be reminded of the amazing person you are with your partner, but being criticized and getting the opposite treatment makes it hard to function in a relationship.

10. Your problems remain unsolved

If your partner does not deal with problems then it would remove the excitment from the 
relationship (Pixabay)
If your partner does not deal with problems then it would remove the excitment from the 
relationship (Pixabay)

Every relationship has their set of problems and the couple needs to work through them in due course of time. But, if your partner does not deal with problems it would carry forward like deadweight and eliminate the excitement from the relationship. Unresolved issues would bother you and drop your spirits, which would hold you back in life because you are constantly carrying the burden of the relationship.

11. Happiness is fading away in life

This is a telltale sign that your relationship is taking a toxic turn 
and emotionally draining you (Pexels)
This is a telltale sign that your relationship is taking a toxic turn
and emotionally draining you (Pexels)

This would reflect on your mood and lead you down a spiral of unhappiness. This is a telltale sign that your relationship is taking a toxic turn and emotionally draining you. Additionally, there is no point in staying in a relationship, which reaps only unhappiness from within.

These signs might be hard to spot in a relationship, but they will manifest slowly. Identifying and recognizing these red-flags which are holding you back would help to regain control of your life. The degree of action can vary depending on the reasons. You need to recognize the indicators that you can talk through and the ones that are a clear relationship ender. This analysis differs from relationship to relationship. But, once you identify these signs would help you take the appropriate course of action.

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