Things women do that make men insecure

Things women do that make men insecure

Role reversal and the breaking of gender roles is a leap for women empowerment, but this can make a man feel devalued and inadequate.

Toxic Masculinity is a mental state the men experience when they feel that their masculinity is threatened, which can be harmful to them and others. Feeling emasculated is not unusual and a very real experience for me that can make them insecure in a relationship. Emasculation is an experience where the core identifiable characteristics of a man, strength, and worthiness, is put into question.

Men feel emasculated when their identifiable characteristics of a man, 
strength, and worthiness, is put into question. (Pexels)
Men feel emasculated when their identifiable characteristics of a man,
strength, and worthiness, is put into question. (Pexels)

The recent role reversal and the breaking of gender roles is a drastic step in terms of women empowerment. But, this shift in education and working in professions can make a man feel devalued and inadequate.

These expectations and norms have been taught, at a very young age (Pexels)
These expectations and norms have been taught, at a very young age (Pexels)

Well, to restore harmony the woman should not alter her actions to change their relationship. Because the concept of gender roles is predisposed by the social conditioning growing up. The problem of misandry affects the man and woman in a relationship. So, here are 11 times men feel emasculated or insecure in a relationship.

The concept of gender roles is predisposed by the social conditioning growing up (Pixabay)
The concept of gender roles is predisposed by the social conditioning growing up (Pixabay)

1. When you compliment another man

The assumption that you find the other man more attractive than him creeps in (Pexels)
The assumption that you find the other man more attractive than him creeps in (Pexels)

This is an obvious reason for your man to feel insecure about himself because of the assumption that you find the other man more attractive than him creeps in. If someone’s look has changed for the better because of their outfit, a new haircut, or they are getting fit. And complimenting them makes your partner feel that they are lacking in one or all of these aspects.

2. When you want them to be emotionally vulnerable

There is a broad distinction between being a 100 percent emotionally transparent and vulnerable (Pexels)
There is a broad distinction between being a 100 percent emotionally transparent and vulnerable (Pexels)

There is a broad distinction between being a 100 percent emotionally transparent about the way he feels and being emotionally vulnerable. Being too emotionally vulnerable can result in your man feeling emasculated because this is contrary to the perception of being a ‘man.’ The degree of vulnerability varies from partner to partner, which makes it harder for your man to fixate on an end of the spectrum.

3. Not appreciating his unique talents

You need to understand that this is his passion and not a party trick (Pexels)
You need to understand that this is his passion and not a party trick (Pexels)

Your partner might like cooking and talks about the dishes he can cook. Well, you need to understand that this is his passion and not a party trick. Being appreciative and giving constructive feedback would boost his morale rather than critiquing what he has prepared. This shows that you support your partner through his endeavors, which could also boost his self-esteem.

4. Going out without them

Accompanying him for a meal can spare him from feeling emasculated (Pixabay)
Accompanying him for a meal can spare him from feeling emasculated (Pixabay)

In some cases tagging along would seem impossible, but accompanying him for a meal can spare him from feeling emasculated. Well, going out alone and watching the other couples can make him feel awkward and a tad bit sad. This might sound ridiculous, but this holds weight. And if you do not want to go out, the two of you can cook a meal avoiding him feeling insecure.

5. Some of your quirks might make him feel emasculated

Participating in activities that are not manly can make him feel emasculated (Pexels)
Participating in activities that are not manly can make him feel emasculated (Pexels)

This is majorly due to the societal expectations of what it takes to be a man and participating in girly activities is not one of them. For instance, you might enjoy tickle fights and he loves making you laugh, but participating in the tickle fight can be embarrassing. Well, tickle fights are obviously not a manly thing to do.

6. When you do not listen to what he has to say

Listening to your partner is as important as communicating with them (Pexels)
Listening to your partner is as important as communicating with them (Pexels)

Listening to your partner is as important as communicating with them. And not paying attention to what he has to say can send a message that you do not care about what he has to say and develop feelings of frustration. When they find that their story or insight carries no weight has no meaning then, they feel devalued.

7. When he is around “ripped” or “shredded” guys

Being around ripped and shredded guys (Pexels)
Being around ripped and shredded guys (Pexels)

Body dysmorphia or comparisons of looks is prevalent among men as well. This might occur when they are around men with six-packs or just more muscular than him. Well, this makes him insecure about you leaving him for a more ripped man.

8. When he is being disrespected by a younger man

Being challenged by a younger man (Pixabay)
Being challenged by a younger man (Pixabay)

If you witness a younger lad disrespecting your man or challenging his authority then, restrain from fighting his battles for him. It is a slap in the face when a young naïve guy interrupts and challenges him. It threatens his authority and his position as an “elder” and as a “man.” And in this situation fighting his battles for him would only make the situation worse making him feel inadequate because he is unable to fight his battles for himself.

9. If he is unable to show his physical prowess in front of you

Inability to show physical prowess (Pixabay)
Inability to show physical prowess (Pixabay)

Societal expectations and stereotypes have fed us that the most important pre-requisite to be a man is possessing the strength that a woman cannot do. When your man is unable to open a can of soup or jar in front of you and it magically opens when you try is seen as a threat. This might make him feel that he lacks the core requirements that makes a man, which makes him look weak and lame.

10. If your family and friends ignore his existence

Well, your parents might do it because of cultural norms or they just do not like him. But asking you if he wants something to eat, if he is comfortable or he needs something when he is present in the room can annoy him.

Asking you if he wants something to eat when he is present in the room can annoy him (Pixabay)
Asking you if he wants something to eat when he is present in the room can annoy him (Pixabay)

He feels threatened because he is capable of making his choices and you speaking for him establishes some sort of ownership you have over him. This can damage the impression he creates and deteriorates his self-worth. In this situation, you need to defend him and understand that it annoys him by letting him make his own decisions.

You speaking for him establishes some sort of ownership you have over him (Pixabay)
You speaking for him establishes some sort of ownership you have over him (Pixabay)

11. You attacking his weak spot by backhand comments in an argument

things he shares in moments of vulnerability are his weak spots, 
using them in an argument makes him feel betrayed (Pexels)
things he shares in moments of vulnerability are his weak spots,
using them in an argument makes him feel betrayed (Pexels)

This is the most crucial point that you need to understand is that the things he shares in moments of vulnerability are his weak spots. Well, using that conversation to gain leverage in an argument can make him feel betrayed and destroy the trust in the relationship. In addition, hiding criticism in your comments can feed into the feeling that would make him perceive you as manipulative and create distance in the relationship.

Multiple of these reasons that might make your man feel emasculated is due to the societal norms and not the condition of your relationship. Breaking the ice by talking about these things and putting forth your honest opinion would help break the societal barriers and gender stereotypes.

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