8 indications that you are micro-cheating on your partner

8 indications that you are micro-cheating on your partner

Being cheated on is definitely not a pleasant experience, but in the case of micro cheating, you tend to be unfaithful without even realizing it.

We all are aware of cheating in a relationship, be it emotionally or physically or in some cases both. But what if the cheating is neither emotionally or physically? This phenomenon is called micro-cheating– a series of seemingly small actions which tells that a person is emotionally and physically focused on someone else outside the relationship.

Cheating on your partner is not an unusual consequence in a relationship (Pixabay)
Cheating on your partner is not an unusual consequence in a relationship (Pixabay)

This situation fosters if you downplay the importance of your relationship by secretly connecting with the person on social media, share a private set of jokes or use their name or things related to them as a code on your phone or computer. Being cheated on is definitely not a pleasant experience, but in the case of micro cheating, you tend to be unfaithful without even realizing it. Both of you might have a fight because of different definitions even if they are not related to cheating.

In micro-cheating, you are unfaithful without realizing it (Pixabay)
In micro-cheating, you are unfaithful without realizing it (Pixabay)

Trust and communication are the key factors to make a relationship last. So in a case where you are micro-cheating or you find your partner doing the same, it is necessary to come clean as no partner should be subjected to any kind of cheating in a relationship. Having a dialogue could reduce the conflicts that you face in a relationship.

Well, here are a few signs that you are micro cheating on your partner. 

 Having a dialogue and understanding each other’s perspective on various topics can help you reach 
a middle ground (Pixabay)

 Having a dialogue and understanding each other’s perspective on various topics can help you reach
a middle ground (Pixabay)

1. Secret conversations with someone your partner dislikes 

Well, this might be accidental or intentional, if that person is close to you. But, it can just start with a text and soon texts go back and forth striking a conversation, which gives birth to a micro-cheating situation. For instance, your high school ex-sends you a birthday wish and you respond.

Interacting with someone your partner does not want you talking to (Pexels)
Interacting with someone your partner does not want you talking to (Pexels)

After which they respond back starting a texting chain, which leads to a daily conversation. Irrespective of the media platform the two of you are talking. If you find the need to hide it from your partner it is inappropriate. Well, talking or texting someone discreetly in no situation is appropriate.

Keeping in touch starts a texting chain that becomes a daily thing (Pexels)
Keeping in touch starts a texting chain that becomes a daily thing (Pexels)

2. Sparking “feelings” from your micro-cheating experiences

If interaction with someone sparks feelings then it is a sign of micro-cheating (Pexels)
If interaction with someone sparks feelings then it is a sign of micro-cheating (Pexels)

While talking to someone you are drawn or rather attracted to can spark certain feelings, which you generally would not experience while talking to a long-term friend. If you get a special feeling while interacting with someone, it is an indicator of micro-cheating intentions. These feelings can range from being desired, attractive, being pursued and accepted. Considering micro-cheating in terms of feelings could be an easy way to identify if you are micro-cheating.

3. Keeping tabs on your ex's relationship status and social life

Almost all of us are victims of stalking our exes on social media and keeping tabs about their social life. This is a rabbit hole, which drags you down on entry. When you were stalking you have pushed down a memory and stuck in the past, which makes you lose track of the present times spent with your present partner.

Stalking your partner on social media can be an indicator of micro cheating (Pixabay)
Stalking your partner on social media can be an indicator of micro cheating (Pixabay)

It is a glaring red flag if you are constantly checking to see if your partner is single. An example of micro-cheating is browsing through your ex's profile and hunting signs of an unhealthy marriage or relationship.

It is a glaring red flag if you are constantly checking to see if your partner is single (Pexels)
It is a glaring red flag if you are constantly checking to see if your partner is single (Pexels)

4. Thinking about someone a lot and wait for their messages

In an ideal relationship, the two of you are thinking about each other throughout the day and wait to meet. But, another telltale of micro-cheating is, if someone has been on your mind majority of the time for a couple of days then you tend to think about them and your older conversations and wait for their messages. 

Another telltale of micro cheating is: if someone has 
been on your mind majority of the time for a couple of days (Pexels)
Another telltale of micro cheating is: if someone has
been on your mind majority of the time for a couple of days (Pexels)

And on the comparison, if you spend a greater amount of time thinking about someone rather than your partner then it is an outright indicator of micro-cheating. In addition to looking forward to conversations if you think consistently think or contact them in your downtime, it is a sign of micro-cheating.

Waiting for someone else's messages other than your partner is a sign of micro-cheating (Pexels)
Waiting for someone else's messages other than your partner is a sign of micro-cheating (Pexels)

5. Clearing your browsing history, phones with password protection, changing your email passwords

Clearing your browsing history to hide it from your partner (Pexels)
Clearing your browsing history to hide it from your partner (Pexels)

Intentionally clearing your browsing history or setting a password on your phone to avoid your partner from viewing the content on your phone is a sign of micro-cheating. This might be because of your conversations with people he/she does not like you talking to, which is a form of cheating on your partner. Well, if you have nothing to hide then, you would not have any rationale to guard yourself.

6. Registering on dating apps even though you are in a relationship

Registering on dating apps despite being in a relationship (Pixabay)
Registering on dating apps despite being in a relationship (Pixabay)

If you are happy in a monogamous relationship then there is no reason to create a dating profile on various dating apps. Well, the sends a clear message that you are looking for a partner. Well, technology has made it easier to find a partner, but it is equally damaging a relationship.

7. Using cryptic language with a certain someone

It is normal for partners to have nicknames and share inside jokes that are exclusive to them. You might share this equation with your close friends as well, but if this tends to be the case anyone else it might be a sign of micro cheating.

Using nicknames or sharing inside jokes with 
someone can be a sign of micro cheating (Pexels)
Using nicknames or sharing inside jokes with
someone can be a sign of micro cheating (Pexels)

This destroys the emotional connection in your relationship since it sends a message that you put the same effort in relationships with others than with your partner. Also, it shows a lack of trust if you share an inside joke that your partner doesn’t know or you wouldn’t want them to know about.

Using nicknames or sharing inside jokes with 
someone can be a sign of micro cheating (Pexels)
Using nicknames or sharing inside jokes with
someone can be a sign of micro cheating (Pexels)

8. Keeping secrets from your partner

Keeping secrets about your interactions or meetings with 
other people is a glaring red-flag that indicates micro cheating (Pixabay)
Keeping secrets about your interactions or meetings with
other people is a glaring red-flag that indicates micro cheating (Pixabay)

Eliminating the obvious, everybody keeps secrets about sensitive topics or subjects where you have to be vulnerable. But, if you end up keeping secrets about your interactions or meetings with other people then, you probably need to be beware of your actions. This is a glaring red-flag that indicates micro cheating. Another underlying message of keeping secrets from your partner is a sign that you do not think that the relationship is going to last.

In addition to all these indicators, there is the emotion of guilt that should be a constant indicator and reminder. Well, it still bottles down to what compromise you and your partner have reached and the level of comfort the two of you have established. If there are certain missing elements in your relationship, the two of you need to talk and understand how to repair the relationship. These methods should exclude the possibility of micro cheating and if you figure out that you are already micro-cheating then you need to act accordingly.

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