Signs that your partner's anger is actually a rage disorder

Signs that your partner's anger is actually a rage disorder

It is normal to say things that you did not mean in the heat of the moment, but there are certain warning signs about your partner's anger that you should not ignore.

Being angry is a normal emotion and it is unrealistic to think that you or your partner would be happy all the time. Also, there are healthy ways to express your rage and not unnecessarily elevate the situation. It is normal to say things that you did not mean in the heat of the moment, but there are certain warning signs about your partner's anger that you should not ignore. 

Being angry is a normal emotion and it is unrealistic to think that you or your 
partner would be happy all the time (Pixabay)
Being angry is a normal emotion and it is unrealistic to think that you or your
partner would be happy all the time (Pixabay)

You need to recognize these emotions and identify the signs of a rage disorder. This would help you protect yourself and stay safe in the relationship. Arguments and conflicts that lead to emotionally heightened moments are normal in a relationship, which makes it imperative to handle it in a healthy way. The important factor to be considered is the approach you make to resolve the anger management issues.

You need to recognize these emotions and identify the 
signs of a rage disorder to help yourself and your partner (Pixabay)
You need to recognize these emotions and identify the
signs of a rage disorder to help yourself and your partner (Pixabay)

Being accusatory and assertive about the issue would aggravate the rage, instead, you need to state your intentions or rather motives affects the outcome of the discussion. If your attempts yield no fruit then, consulting a therapist would help get constructive feedback and avoid the repercussions.

Talking to a medical professional would help resolve the mismanaged anger (Pixabay)
Talking to a medical professional would help resolve the mismanaged anger (Pixabay)

1. Getting out of control when they get angry

If your partner is angry in a healthy manner then they would be able to contain their emotions and keep them in check. This would also help them understand the other side of the situation and react in an appropriate manner.

Unchecked anger would lead the person to spiral out of control (Pexels)
Unchecked anger would lead the person to spiral out of control (Pexels)

But, if your partner spirals out of control, this would reduce their ability to deal with the situation in a rational manner. Uncontrollable anger is something that helps draw a distinction between healthy and unhealthy rage.

Spiraling out of control reduces their ability to deal 
with situations in a rational manner (Pexels)
Spiraling out of control reduces their ability to deal
with situations in a rational manner (Pexels)

2. The outrage is followed by guilt

The uncontrolled actions would make them regret 
their actions, thus, leading to guilt (Pixabay)
The uncontrolled actions would make them regret
their actions, thus, leading to guilt (Pixabay)

If your partner spirals out of control and lashes out, after which, he/she feels guilty about bursting out in that situation, is an indicator of mismanaged rage. This guilt seeps in because of the things they must have said or done in the heightened situation. The uncontrolled actions would make them regret their actions, thus, leading to guilt. Well, feeling guilty or ashamed after an outburst of rage might be an indicator of Intermittent Explosive Disorder.

3. They express their anger in an unhealthy manner

The actions that follow healthy anger would be contained and the would not impact you in a physical or mental state. But, if your partner has anger issues then, the outburst would lead to harmful actions. This represents the lack of channeling their anger towards actions to things that would be beneficial in calming them down.

If your partner has anger issues then, the outburst would lead to harmful actions (Pixabay)
If your partner has anger issues then, the outburst would lead to harmful actions (Pixabay)

Instead, they would participate in actions such as drinking, breaking things and it might also lead to domestic violence. Irrespective of the unhealthy actions they choose, but it is a sign that their anger is more serious than you imagined.

Participating in unhealthy actions can be a sign of rage disorder (Pexels)
Participating in unhealthy actions can be a sign of rage disorder (Pexels)

4. They are always frustrated

Intermittent Explosive Disorder can be spotted if your partner is low-key frustrated all the time. This is evident if your partner gets frustrated for the smallest of things or even if the situation does not call for it. Well, this is a clear indication that it is not healthy anger.

Intermittent Explosive Disorder can be spotted if your partner is 
low-key frustrated all the time (Pixabay)
Intermittent Explosive Disorder can be spotted if your partner is
low-key frustrated all the time (Pixabay)

Constantly being irritated or frustrated is also because of unresolved anger, which is seeking ways to escape. Resolving the issues in your mind would help you channel your emotions in the right way without causing unintended consequences.

Constantly being irritated or frustrated is also because 
of unresolved anger, which is seeking ways to escape (Pixabay)
Constantly being irritated or frustrated is also because
of unresolved anger, which is seeking ways to escape (Pixabay)

5. They make their anger evident by the change in expression

Some people in angry situations do not make it visible that they are displeased or enraged by the situation. This is controlled anger and managed in a healthy manner, which would make your partner feel heard. On the other hand, if your partner makes it visible that he/she is angry, it can be a sign of rage disorder.

Some people make it evident with the change in expression that they are 
displeased about something (Pexels)
Some people make it evident with the change in expression that they are 
displeased about something (Pexels)

The change in expression could be visible by, the clenching fists, teeth biting, or their eyes going blank that are signs of uncontrolled rage. If you are comfortable talking to your partner about it then, take the necessary precautions. Avoid accusing or blaming them, which would spark rage rather than cooling them down.

Expression change could be visible by clenching fists (Pixabay)
Expression change could be visible by clenching fists (Pixabay)

6. Loss of memory in the state of anger

Some people tend to black out and not remember their actions or words (Pixabay)
Some people tend to black out and not remember their actions or words (Pixabay)

Being in control of your temper and mind would help you make calculated decisions, which would lead to complete retention of thoughts. But, if your partner blacks out and does not remember their actions of words in the state of anger then it is a sign of mismanaged rage. If this is impacting your relationship in a negative manner. And the two of you are not able to mutually resolve the issue, then consulting a professional would help tame the rage.

7. Anger makes them violent

In some instances, rage could lead to violence, which is never acceptable in any relationship. You need to take measures to protect yourself and reconsider the relationship because it is unacceptable to be assaulted because of your partner's rage.

Rage could lead to violence, since your partner spirals out of control (Pexels)
Rage could lead to violence, since your partner spirals out of control (Pexels)

If you wish to fix the situation and sustain the relationship then, enrolling in an anger management course and consulting a professional would help contain the situation. This would help you determine the appropriate course of action that you need to take to keep yourself safe.

Domestic violence should not be tolerated in any relationship (Pixabay)
Domestic violence should not be tolerated in any relationship (Pixabay)

If you notice that your partner’s rage is taking an unhealthy turn then it might be a sign of a rage disorder. Identifying the type of anger would help you take action to safeguard yourself and help your partner. In many situations, it would result in you fearing your partner then, talking about it amongst yourselves or with a professional would help. This would help you find ways to sustain your relationship and maintain a healthy equation between the two of you.

Also, seeking professional assistance can help figure out the best way forward, either with or without your partner.

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