The first trait or feature you notice in your partner says much about what drives the relationship. Here's how this can be a sign of where your relationship is going.
You could be the hopelessly romantic, love-at-first-sight kind of a person. Or, you could be a pro at making a mental list of pros and cons as you carefully assess someone new. Irrespective of which end of the spectrum you fall in (in every sense), the first thing that speaks out to you and catches your attention says a lot about the other person and what the relationship means to you.
During the course of a relationship, it's easy to lose touch with this primary factor that brought you two together. Recollecting the first moment that stood out to you and made you take the next step puts you back in touch with the part of you that connected with them free of expectations and assumptions.
Take a moment and think about that first moment where your would-be partner suddenly meant a tad bit more to you than he or she did a minute ago. The moment they were no more a stranger you liked. The moment that made you take notice of their presence and go 'Hmmm.'
If the first thing you noticed about them is how they become a bubble of excited energy when they talk about what they love, it's their passion and zest for life that had the first impact on you. Your relationship is one that inspires each other.
It's important for such couples to ensure that the two continue to pursue their individual interests along the course of the relationship. The individual passion is the fuel that keeps the fire of the relationship alive. If you let your interests take a back seat, your relationship will feel less exciting and it won't be long before it runs dry.
It could be the waiter, someone standing at a queue in front of them, or a stranger on the street. If the first thing that tug your heart was how easy it was for them to bring an earnest smile in someone's face, your connection with them stems from a common trait of warmth and kindness for all.
Such couples truly believe in 'love for all' and continue to make human connections that are beyond the relationship. If you let jealousy, possessiveness, or just being busy get in the way of your partner's natural care for the people around them, the relationship might take a different turn.
You love the pauses in between the words that make you wonder what's going on in their fascinating mind. A sense of intrigue drives your relationship and you love to take the time to unravel the mystery at your own sweet pace. For such couples, space is important.
Familiarity not just leads to contempt, but also sets you up for a lifetime of frustration because there is a need to dwell in one's own being and silence to recoup. If you feel your relationship is stuck in a rut, give your partner the time they need. And both of you will feel the sparks of your early days come alive.
If you caught yourself falling for them when you were busy drowning in the depth of their eyes, you connected with your partner in a way that's hard to categorize. It's almost as if your soul recognized them as a long-lost companion and aren't you glad to meet them again? Words matter less in such relationships.
Recognizing a soul mate by looking into their eyes is a sign that they are here in this lifetime to teach you something important. It's usually a healing relationship for the two of you. When there are fights or arguments, remind yourself of the bigger picture.
If you found yourself falling a tad bit more for them in between chuckles, it's their sense of humor that did it for you. You know that their ability to make a mundane moment bright with their wit is precious. Such couples rely on a sense of playfulness to keep things light and happy, even during hard times.
If your relationship started out with a lot of giggles and goofy laughter and has turned out serious and sober, it's a sign that you have lost touch with who you both really are. Take time to do nothing and allow that space to reconnect you two to the childlike enthusiasm and zest you share for life.
If the first thing you notices was the way they did their hair, their watch or accessory, or how savvy they look in their chic clothes, it's aesthetics that did it for you. You both share a taste for the fine things in life. It isn't just about the material things but that they took the care to invest the time and energy in grooming themselves. For your relationship to last, put self-care a priority and take time out between busy weekdays to go for a walk together and appreciate the little things you both are blessed with.
It's something they said or the way they listened attentively, or how they broke into a smile when they heard someone's voice that made you sit up and take notice. Of course, you didn't mean to pry or overhear the conversation, but something about the way they communicate hinted that they were reliable, genuine, and warm. If this is the first thing you noticed, your relationship is based on the many cues, hints, joys, and trust that good communication between two people brings.
If the first thing you noticed is how they don't care to comply to social norms, it says much about who you are as an individual. It's your partner's innate rebellion against the mainstream and care-a-damn attitude that made you sit up and take note of them. You both value personal freedom and do not like or care to follow the trend or do what people or couples 'ought to do.'
As your relationship evolves, ensure you or your partner is not stuck in a compulsive need to resist each other's opinions or anything purely out of distaste for the common. Ensure you form a healthy sense of duo and also connect with people with different viewpoints to be in touch with reality.
It could be how they managed to get the two of you of a tricky situation or how they managed to make a sumptuous meal out of the leftover stuff in the fridge. If what they did and how they did it impressed you, your relationship is practical and grounded in mutual support and respect for what each of you brings to the relationship.
If you want your relationship to last, ensure you balance the functionality of life with sweet and simple moments that bring pleasure to the two of you. If the clock and organizer take complete control, your relationship could be heading to an unhappy place and you don't want to get there.
If the first thing you noticed was how at ease and happy they were when chatting with their friends, their natural confidence and warmth is one of the main thing to get you hooked. Their easy banter, silly jokes, ability to listen keenly and reach out in concern means much to you.
You could be an introvert or an extrovert yourself, but emotional and meaningful connection with a trusted few matters to you. Ensure you both make time for your friends and do make it a point to hang out together as a bunch. It might bring back the light in your partner that you noticed in them at the start.
It's everything about their physicality--the way they moved, the smell of their perfume, and their physical sense of self--that spoke to you without a single word being exchanged. If this is the first thing you noticed, you're lucky. Because there's a reason for a certain kind of people to feel such powerful and overwhelming attraction.
Relationships that begin with this as the starting point can evolve into deeply passionate and supportive bonds. Ensure that your physicality leads you to explore each other in multi dimensions.