Timeline of a relationship that every couple goes through

Timeline of a relationship that every couple goes through

Irrespective of the nature of the relationship, almost every couple goes through these stages and the two of you need to work past them to sustain the relationship.

A relationship goes through different stages or rather phases with time. It can be hard to decipher which stage of the relationship you are currently in or in which direction is your relationship is headed. Irrespective of the nature of the relationship, almost every couple goes through these stages and the two of you need to work past them to sustain the relationship. After identifying the phase, the two of you are in, you may need to take the necessary actions to strengthen the relationship.


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Also, understanding the different stages of the relationship would help the partners sustain a long-term relationship. Every relationship is subject to growth and change, which makes the relationship a rollercoaster ride. Initially, a relationship would be exciting and give you butterflies in your stomach, but with time the excitement fades away and you need to put in the effort to rekindle the romance. So, here are the stages of a relationship, which might help identify, understand, and act in the right manner to sustain the relationship.

Understanding the different stages of the relationship would help the partners sustain a long-term relationship (Pixabay)
Understanding the different stages of the relationship would help the partners sustain a long-term relationship (Pixabay)

1. Romantic and infatuation phase

This is the initial stage of a new relationship where the couples are attracted to each other and are infatuated. In the first stage, everything is sunshine and rainbow with butterflies in your stomach. The two of you intend to put your best foot forward and make fond memories with each other.

In the first stage, everything is sunshine and rainbow with butterflies in your stomach (Pexels)
In the first stage, everything is sunshine and rainbow with butterflies in your stomach (Pexels)

In this stage, the excitement is at its peak and it brings a lot of laughter, bounciness, and affection. Well, while the two of you are apart, the only thing you can think about yourself is your partner and vice versa. This emotionally heightened phase makes you feel euphoric and boosts your energy levels also, giving you a sense of fearlessness.

This emotionally heightened phase makes you feel euphoric and boosts your energy levels also, giving you a sense of fearlessness (Pexels)
This emotionally heightened phase makes you feel euphoric and boosts your energy levels also, giving you a sense of fearlessness (Pexels)

2. The aberrations phase

With time the excitement and heightened emotions tend to settle down and the two of you would return to your normal state. The focus shifts from relationship-centric to diverting the focus to your respective daily activities as well. In this stage, it is normal to have small fights and get upset at each other for the lack of attention at some points.

It is normal to have small fights and get upset at each other for the lack of attention at some points (Pexels)
It is normal to have small fights and get upset at each other for the lack of attention at some points (Pexels)

Since you have graduated from the initial stages you would have increased the expectations of each other. And it might be a little upsetting if your relationship does not match those expectations. Irrespective you need to make efforts in the relationship and hope for the best.

If your expectations do not meet reality then it can be disappointing (Pexels)
If your expectations do not meet reality then it can be disappointing (Pexels)

3. The changing phase

This is the rough patch of the relationship and one partner might dominate the relationship. You might try to mould them and make them the person you imagined your partner as. This is eventually would become a power struggle, which might make your partner feel controlled in the relationship.

The third stage is the rough patch of the relationship and one partner might dominate the relationship (Pixabay)
The third stage is the rough patch of the relationship and one partner might dominate the relationship (Pixabay)

Couples generally break up in this stage of the relationship. Mostly the people who date regularly and are not looking for anything serious. Well, the couples who survive this phase realize that to sustain a relationship you need to sacrifice and improve your relationship with kindness.

Couples generally break up in this stage, if they are not looking for a serious relationship (Pexels)
Couples generally break up in this stage, if they are not looking for a serious relationship (Pexels)

4. The understanding and accepting phase

Getting past the rough patches of the relationship the connection and bond have strengthened, which would help you understand your partner better. You being to work as a team and accept each other for the person for who they are.

The connection and bond have strengthened, which would help you understand your partner better (Pexels)
The connection and bond have strengthened, which would help you understand your partner better (Pexels)

You begin to make efforts to make the relationship work and go the extra mile to spark the excitement in the relationship. You need to avoid misunderstandings in the relationship and understand each other better than before. Focusing on the positives and accepting the negative aspects of your partner would help you move to the next stage of the relationship.

You begin to make efforts to make the relationship work and go the extra mile to spark the excitement in the relationship (Pexels)

You begin to make efforts to make the relationship work and go the extra mile to spark the excitement in the relationship (Pexels)

5. The opinions setting phase

You have set opinions and expectations about your partner (Pixabay)
You have set opinions and expectations about your partner (Pixabay)

In this stage, the two of you have accepted and set expectations or rather opinions about each other. You are well aware of what to expect from your partner and have made assumptions about your partner's commitment to the relationship. In some cases, this can be disappointing, if your partner does not share the same expectations. But, this could be worked out by discussing the direction of the relationship and being on the same page. Since it would help form affirmative expectations that would be fulfilled.

6. The doubting phase

After being together for a while the doubting phase manifests. The doubt begins to creep in and dwelling in this phase might put your relationship in jeopardy. In this stage, you might compare yourself to your partner's previous partners or draw comparisons between your partner and your exes.

The doubt begins to creep in and dwelling in this phase might put your relationship in jeopardy (Pixabay)
The doubt begins to creep in and dwelling in this phase might put your relationship in jeopardy (Pixabay)

This stage is particularly dull with the excitement out of the equation. You might begin relating every aspect of your life to the relationship. For instance, if you are unhappy or hurting you would tend to blame it on your partner, which might make them resent the relationship. You can rekindle the romance by talking it through and doing activities that you used to do in the initial stages of the relationship.

There are instances when you might resent your relationship (Pixabay)
There are instances when you might resent your relationship (Pixabay)

7. The Trust Phase

Working past the doubting phase and other problems would help you build unwavering trust in the relationship (Pixabay)
Working past the doubting phase and other problems would help you build unwavering trust in the relationship (Pixabay)

Working past the doubting phase would help you build unwavering trust in the relationship. This also helps establish a certain sense of comfort level and you could also assess the direction of your relationship. Well, you are happy with your partner and know what to expect from them and not to. Despite the closeness, you should not stop putting efforts in the relationship, since it might make them feel stagnated and a relationship needs to be nurtured from time-to-time.

This also helps establish a certain sense of comfort level and you could also assess the direction of your relationship (Pixabay)
This also helps establish a certain sense of comfort level and you could also assess the direction of your relationship (Pixabay)

8. The smooth-sailing-ship phase 


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This is the stage that does not require much effort since you have worked past most of them and developed an unbreakable bond. Every stage would mould you in a different way and subject you to constant change. Well, this would change both of you and understand different aspects of each other. On reaching this phase your relationship would cruise through and give you the happily ever after ending.

Each relationship has its own clock and there is no set timeline for reaching each stage. Well, you need to figure out which stage the two of you are in and take actions to nurture or repair the relationship.

You would also know about the things to avoid in a relationship, which would help avoid misconceptions and let your love flourish.

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