7 techniques you should never use to get your man's attention

7 techniques you should never use to get your man's attention

The lack of skill makes it imperative for you to take matters in your own hand and impress the man from afar. There are dramatic tricks that you might use to get his attention.

The most important step before being pursued by a guy is catching his attention and getting him interested in you. Some people are blessed with skill, but others need to adopt tricks to get noticed. Well, needing to put in the efforts to get noticed does not mean that you are not attractive.

Some women need to make an effort to get noticed, but it doesn't make them any less attractive (Pixabay)
Some women need to make an effort to get noticed, but it doesn't make them any less attractive (Pixabay)

The lack of skill makes it imperative for you to take matters in your own hand and impress the man from afar. There are different and dramatic measures that you may use to get your man’s attention. Towards one end of the spectrum there are absolutely ridiculous ways to get his attention, but not in the manner you would like.


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But, there are methods that might seem normal, but are ineffective ways to get his attention. You need to adopt methods that tend towards normalcy and do not push him away from you. So, here are 7 out-of-bounds tactics you should NOT use to get your man’s attention.


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1. Picking fights with women who have his attention

This is one of the most foolish ways to get someone’s attention. Your man might give his friends or family his attention because of obvious reasons and if this trick actually works then, you should not be dating him in the first place.

He might give attention to people close to him because of obvious reasons (Pixabay)
He might give attention to people close to him because of obvious reasons (Pixabay)

This would just show insecurity and desperacy to get acquainted with him, which would push him away and he would not look at you with romantic interests. Because of your projection of neediness and insecurity this would act as a warning sign for him and you would lose his attention that instant.

This would just show insecurity and desperacy to get acquainted with him (Pexels)
This would just show insecurity and desperacy to get acquainted with him (Pexels)

2. Being the argumentative and difficult one

There is a misconception set that men love women who are difficult or have a bad attitude. Well, you would get his attention, but not serve the purpose. He would hate talking to you because of your attitude and soon go his way.

He would hate talking to you because of your attitude and argumentative nature (Pexels)
He would hate talking to you because of your attitude and argumentative nature (Pexels)

Well, nobody would want to be in a relationship with someone difficult, intentionally! But, making that your dating game would not be a good move. Also, picking fights and having unreasonable arguments is something you should avoid to be on the good side. Well, this would eventually frustrate the man and drive him away.

Picking fights and arguing to get his attention would frustrate him and drive him away (Pixabay)
Picking fights and arguing to get his attention would frustrate him and drive him away (Pixabay)

3. Interrupt his me-time

This is something no guy would not entertain because of the limited time he gets to spend by himself. For instance, if he is watching a game, do not interrupt him to get his attention.

The would not entertain you interrupting his me-time because of the limited time he gets to spend for himself
The would not entertain you interrupting his me-time because of the limited time he gets to spend for himself

Well, if he respects your time by refraining from bothering you while you are watching your show then you should do the same. This is not the time to test how irresistible you are. Well, you would be disappointed with the response because there is a high chance that he would ignore you.

You would be disappointed with his reaction, since he would choose to ignore you (Pixabay)
You would be disappointed with his reaction, since he would choose to ignore you (Pixabay)

4. Showing up wherever he is

Popping up at places he goes is stalker behavior (Pexels)
Popping up at places he goes is stalker behavior (Pexels)

Well, this qualifies as being a professional stalker. Your man would be creeped out and slowly drift away from you. Your act exhibits clingy and possessive behavior, which is not the qualities a man would want in his partner. He would feel uncomfortable and it would lead to him making it clear that he never wants to see you again. 

5. Constantly texting and calling

Constantly calling him or texting him without any response would creep him out (Pexels)
Constantly calling him or texting him without any response would creep him out (Pexels)

Making calls or sending texts all the time is one of the creepiest things that you could do to get his attention. Well, this is also a stalker move, which would push him away. If he has not replied to your texts or calls after two tires then he is probably uninterested or just unavailable. Bombarding him with texts and calls would just make him uncomfortable and he would eventually end up blocking you.

6. Trying to look like his ex-girlfriend

Firstly, doing things that his ex used to do would be a turn off for him, since he would not want to be reminded of his previous partners. This would eliminate your identity and he would not consider you for who you are. Instead, he would associate memories with his previous partners with you.

Trying to act and look like his previous partners would chase him away (Pixabay)
Trying to act and look like his previous partners would chase him away (Pixabay)

Additionally, trying to act like his current partner or be someone who you are not would be a huge fail. This would make you a controlling partner and he would not want to be in a relationship with someone who would dominate and control him. Being yourself and giving him an opportunity to look at the person you are might work in your favor.

Acting like his current partner would make you seem clingy and make him feel uncomfortable (Pixabay)
Acting like his current partner would make you seem clingy and make him feel uncomfortable (Pixabay)

7.  Being a constant damsel in distress

Acting like a damsel in distress would make him think of you as needy (Pixabay)
Acting like a damsel in distress would make him think of you as needy (Pixabay)

This trick might work once or twice, but eventually playing the damsel in distress would make you seem needy and show that you are unable to take care of yourself.

Finding reasons to ask for his help and playing the victim card would reap no benefit. Well, there are guys who enjoy the attention and being needed, but there would be a limit, which would be surpassed because of the abuse of this tactic.

These are a few of the tactics that you should stray away from, irrespective of the seemingly normal nature of these methods. These are different types of crazy and some of them are outright inappropriate. There are other methods that you should avoid, but these seem normal, but do not serve the purpose.

In addition, trying tactics like trying to be someone you are not would not work in your favor either, sticking to the basics and playing it cool would help you get his attention.

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