7 signs your partner is emotionally abusing you in subtle ways

7 signs your partner is emotionally abusing you in subtle ways

The quite abuse can happen during regular talks or even by remaining silent. This form of abuse is not limited to relationships but can happen between friends and colleagues also

There is absolutely no doubt that you are in an unhealthy relationship when your partner puts you through physical, mental, and emotional abuse. But what if you are in a relationship and you feel that everything is going right, however, in reality, you are in a relationship with an emotionally abusive partner. But the catch here is that they are doing it so subtly you aren't even aware of it.

You might consider an abusive relationship if your partner shouts, shames, or he/she inflicts physical harm (Pixabay)
You might consider an abusive relationship if your partner shouts, shames, or he/she inflicts physical harm (Pixabay)

There are some apparent signs that your partner is emotionally abusing you, but you need to distinguish it carefully to understand where your partner is coming from. This form of abuse is not just restricted to relationships but can happen between friends, family, and even colleagues.


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Signs of subtle emotional abuse is not easily recognizable, which might result in you staying in the relationship. Spotting it is important, so, here are 7 signs that might help you to see the larger picture clearly and take the required call. 


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1. Jokes with a hidden message

Joking about each other’s idiosyncrasies is common in a relationship. But, there are instances when these jokes might have a hidden message that is a criticism directed towards you. These jokes impact your self-esteem and have negative emotional impacts on you.

Jokes might have a hidden message that is a criticism directed towards you (Pexels)
Jokes might have a hidden message that is a criticism directed towards you (Pexels)

This form of emotional abuse can be spotted in a relationship and at the office, which would hamper your self-image. If these jokes are upsetting you then, just brushing it off is not a good course of action. Talk to the person who is making such jokes and make your point clear. Even after talking out the behavior continues then it is time to take some serious actions.

This form of abuse can be spotted in various places, which would impact your self-image (Pixabay)
This form of abuse can be spotted in various places, which would impact your self-image (Pixabay)

2. Insults you in normal conversations

You might consider this abusive nature as constructive criticism, but it should not be disregarded. The perpetrator would not increase their decibel level while talking, but their comments would hamper your mental state.

The perpetrator would not increase his/her decibel level while talking, but these comments would be hurtful (Pixabay)
The perpetrator would not increase his/her decibel level while talking, but these comments would be hurtful (Pixabay)

This form of verbal abuse can be spotted in relationships, the workplace, and among friends. For instance, one of the friends might say that you are the “fat girl” of the group or a boss who consistently mentions that you were “useless” at the meeting. Well, this definitely counts as an emotional abuse regardless of the decibel level the person is speaking at.

This form of verbal abuse can also be spotted in relationships, the workplace, and among friends (Pexels)
This form of verbal abuse can also be spotted in relationships, the workplace, and among friends (Pexels)

3. Guilt-tripping you into doing things

Guilt-tripping is a common method of quiet abuse used to get things done their way (Pixabay)
Guilt-tripping is a common method of quiet abuse used to get things done their way (Pixabay)

This is a technique that a friend or your partner might use to get you to do things that you are not comfortable with. Guilt-tripping is a common method of quiet abuse. It is a manipulative strategy used to get things done their way. You need to set boundaries in any form of relationship, which would help avoid being taken for granted. Using this trick to get things, which is outside your comfort zone, more than once by using hurtful phrases or bringing back instances when you couldn't help them is a classic case of the other person emotionally abusing you.

4. Being inattentive while you are talking

This is a trick that uses silence as a weapon to show their inconsideration for what you have to say. People use this method to disempower you or make you feel unloved and devalued. This is common in a relationship, in which your partner is childishly stubborn and does not consider other opinions and views.

People use this method to dis-empower you or make you feel unloved and devalued (Pixabay)
People use this method to dis-empower you or make you feel unloved and devalued (Pixabay)

Having an arrogant and irrational attitude is a glaring red-flag since your partner does not pass the compatibility test. But, if you manage to ignore the warning signs and are in a relationship with an immature partner. Then, you should make it clear that you would not tolerate this behavior and disrespect from the beginning would spare you the emotional turmoil

You should make it clear that you would not tolerate this behavior and disrespect (Pexels)
You should make it clear that you would not tolerate this behavior and disrespect (Pexels)

5. Using silent treatment or excludes you if you disagree

Firstly, this shows the childish nature of your partner or your family member or even your colleague, which is a warning sign. Using the silent treatment or cold-shouldering can be categorized as emotional abuse, which can create distance in the relationship and lead to the end of the relationship.

Stonewalling shows the childish nature of your partner, which is a warning sign before getting into the relationship (Pixabay)
Stonewalling shows the childish nature of your partner, which is a warning sign before getting into the relationship (Pixabay)

This form of abuse does not need high volume to sting, but the silence would be enough to control your mind. It can be used to manipulate you into doing things that would require you to side-step boundaries. Well, this is the most devastating form of abuse, since it puts on the spot with a choice of the task or relationship.

This is the most devastating form of abuse since it puts on the spot with a choice of the task or relationship (Pixabay)
This is the most devastating form of abuse since it puts on the spot with a choice of the task or relationship (Pixabay)

6. Constant taunts on being “too sensitive”

Rather than a sign of a form of abusive, this is a sign that the person you are with might have an abusive nature. This would make you question yourself and result in you thinking that you are overanalyzing and overthinking things

This method would result in you thinking that you are overanalyzing and overthinking things (Pexels)
This method would result in you thinking that you are overanalyzing and overthinking things (Pexels)

Well, if your partner consistently asks you to “take it easy” or “chill out” then, it can be a sign of silently abusive partner. They would not resort to physical implications but use their words to deliver the message and make a sting. If your partner constantly asks you to sit back and relax and stop overanalyzing situations then think about the relationship.

If your partner consistently asks you to “take it easy” or “chill out” then, it can be a sign of silently abusive partner (Pixabay)
If your partner consistently asks you to “take it easy” or “chill out” then, it can be a sign of silently abusive partner (Pixabay)

7. Use ways to make you feel small and weak

Your partner might not convey this message directly, but use tricks and methods to make you feel wrong (Pexels)
Your partner might not convey this message directly, but use tricks and methods to make you feel wrong (Pexels)

Your partner might not convey this message directly, but use tricks and methods to make you feel wrong. These ticks can be really hard to spot, but if you if you tend to feel low and wrong while you are around them it is a strong indicator. Your partner's statements might be targeted at you and have an underlying message that would lower your self-esteem.

Silent abuse can be worse than the overt abuse because it subtly affects you and in many cases, it goes unrecognized. We might think that talking things out would help resolve the matter, but in some case, it would lead to a dominated argument making your feeling bad and guilty for bringing it up.

Your reaction to silent abuse might involve hesitation and self-doubt, which gives the other person leverage to control you. Due to their subtle nature, you might not have a response or rather a counter for the abusive nature, which makes it imperative to spot this indication and act accordingly before it gets the better of you. Consult a medical professional, marriage counselor or a therapist to understand the situation better.

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