Getting married on the spur of the moment might seem exciting and adventurous, but with time the real picture would present itself and the spark might fade away.
In the initial stages of the relationship the feeling of love and excitement clouds one's judgment regarding the other aspects of the relationship. With time, the excitement fades away and the other factors weigh in. In a long-term relationship, factors like compatibility, understanding, and other such factors weigh in. Being blinded by the love, we generally make decisions that have negative consequences.
Well, you need to consider many factors before tying the knot, since the relationship is almost life-long and set in binding. Getting married on the spur of the moment might seem exciting and adventurous, but with time, the real picture would present itself and the spark might fade away. For instance, initially, it might seem like you have found the perfect match and decide to take the plunge.
But, after marriage, the person might become dominating and controlling, or may not be the way he was before marriage, which might make you feel trapped in the relationship. This horrible dream would burst your bubble of infatuation, which makes it imperative to beware of the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with. Here is a list of qualities in a man that are a red-flag.
Having the same work ethic is important in a relationship, since it is a factor that weighs in checking for compatibility. Well, having different work ethics would result in the reduced amount of time with each other, which would give rise to feelings of resentment in the relationship.
In addition, after marriage, there is a significant increase in responsibilities and if he is not able to give you time now then, it would lead to conflicts after marriage. Well, leading a more balanced life and trying to spend ample time with you would be the ideal situation in the relationship.
Nothing could be worse than a partner with a restricted mindset about things. And the idea of spending an entire lifetime with a man who is not open-minded sounds like a nightmare. You would not want to spend the rest of your life with a partner who prohibits you from doing things because it goes against his values, fear of things going wrong or mistrust on you. This would make you regret your decision, thus, ruining your marriage.
Making excuses for everything is one of the worst quality in a man and shows that there are other things more important to him. This bottles down to priorities and by his actions it is evident that you are not on the list. If he has excuses for his inability to something every time then, he is trying to escape the situation.
Honesty being one of the foundational stones of a relationship plays a vital role in establishing trust in the relationship. If the belief is broken in the relationship, it would cause tension and ruin the dynamic that the two of you share. If being dishonest becomes a pattern in the relationship then, the liar should be confronted and you need to set boundaries that you would not tolerate being lied to.
Disagreements and fights are common in any relationship, but if he drags the arguments and does not let go until he has the last word, you need to reconsider the relationship. This would be seconded by the restriction of holding your own opinion and he would never agree to settle arguments. If your partner attempts to control your opinion and dwells in fights then, you should probably refrain from taking the plunge.
It is normal to forget a few important days or not live up to his promises occasionally. Forgiving your partner is a reasonable thing to do, which would also establish the understanding in the relationship.
But, if it becomes a common practice to not live up to his word in a relationship then, further on in a marriage it would become a bigger issue. This would be complemented by the quality of making excuses for all broken promises, which is a quality you need to watch out for.
Having a chip on your shoulder and considering that every action is appropriate leads you to live a life that is away from reality. Similarly, if your man constantly thinks that his actions are always right and he does no wrong can be harmful to you and the relationship. In the long run, this would make you question your actions if they are against his wishes. It would also lead to a mindset of doubt and slowly reduce your self-esteem.
Every person has a selection of animals that they are either afraid of or they do not like. But, if your partner seems to hate animals and asks you to pick between a pet and him. Then, you should avoid taking the relationship to the next level. Choosing a pet would be wiser since at least the pet would be loyal and love you unconditionally.
Setting aside some time aside for yourself is important to pursue your hobbies and things that you would not do as a couple. But, if your partner is intrusive and clingy that does not give you the needed me time, it is a glaring red-flag. Being clingy can be a sign of lack of trust and feed into the insectaries they might have been pre-existing.
Being unreasonable and making irrational decisions are signs that your partner is an immature person. If your man does not consider other people’s opinion or views in an argument by childishly sticking to his/her stance then, you should probably reconsider the relationship. In the long-term, this would cause serious conflicts in the relationship
Before walking down the aisle you need to consider a lot of factors other than the love you share to predict the feasibility of the marriage. This is the point where compatibility plays a role and if your partner has qualities that would change you and dilute your identity to a large extent then, you should probably refrain from taking the next step. Beware of these qualities in a man, which would spare you the emotional turmoil of being pulled into a bad marriage.