Woman explains why she never wants to be called a 'supermom' — and we get why it's problematic

To be a mother is to handle everything under the sun. If you ask any family about the person who holds it together, the answer will likely be the mom. And what do people call someone like that? A supermom– the highest stature of respect for the woman who runs a household, works full-time, and takes care of every family member. TikTok mom, podcaster, and educator Laura Danger, who goes by @thatdarnchat, has an unconventional take on the term “super mom,” and it has struck a chord with all the other moms out there. 

“I will fight anyone in the street who calls me a supermom,” Danger begins, adding, “I am not a supermom.” The claim took aback those unversed with motherhood, as the term is usually a compliment for mothers and the hard work they put into their daily lives. This is why Danger’s on-point explanation about the many ways this label is wrong and endorses overwork and exhaustion in mothers has resonated with many women. “I never want anyone to refer to me as so strong. Jack of all trades. ‘We literally couldn’t do it without her. If you weren’t here, everything would fall apart,” she emphasizes, quoting some of the general statements hurled at mothers doing it all. 

Danger highlights how “supermom” tags indirectly imply that mothers do and should want to take care of everything else. Therefore, she admits that being “so essential” to her organization or even her family will only impair them from being independent of her. While it is necessary to have contributions, mothers are, somehow, gaslighted into managing all spheres of their lives single-handedly, be it professional, personal, or societal. “I wanna be important enough that I matter, and I wanna bring something to the table, but I do not want to be the one sustaining anything,” the TikTok mom belts out. 

In complete honesty, the creator disclosed that “a life of ease” is what she desires and suggests feeling unrested is not a badge of honor. “I want to feel empowered to rest. I am not a super mom. I will never be a super mom.” Looking at it from a different perspective, Danger paints a scenario of a mother who simply matches the energy and efforts of those around her. When done so, if the situation tends to fall apart, it is evident that the mother was “overcompensating” herself to an unsustainable level. “If you are the thing keeping it all together, it was never sustainable,” she concluded. 

Don’t know about the families, but the comments surely matched the energy with the truth-spitting mother. @janisthwtwc said, “It’s like those job postings asking for a ‘Rockstar,’ they just mean they want someone to overwork.” While an ally, @_0zzy_0 encouraged, “This video gave me an epiphany. Please keep doing what you do.” “Oof. This hit hard. I’m a single parent to 2, fighting cancer, on my own. I didn’t want to be super mom. The resentment I feel is intense,” expressed another mom (@raven_marie666). 

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