53 and single, a woman shared her ‘secret to happiness’ — and it’s exactly the life advice we needed

Many agree that personal happiness comes from embracing independence and self-fulfillment, rather than relying on others for validation or companionship. This mindset is often championed by those who choose to live life on their own terms, finding joy in their friendships, travel, and personal growth. In a world where society often nudges women toward the conventional milestones of marriage and motherhood, a 53-year-old woman on TikTok is offering a refreshingly different take, and it’s resonating with thousands.

The woman, who goes by the username @carmindy_beauty on TikTok, recently shared a video explaining what has brought her the most happiness: living life entirely on her terms. At 53, she is single and childfree by choice, and she is thriving. “I travel, and I don’t need a man to plan it for me,” she says in the video. Whether she is heading out solo or meeting up with friends along the way, she embraces her independence unapologetically. “I do it on my own and with friends.” That, she says, is her 'secret to happiness.'

Her message resonated greatly with netizens online, especially among women who find themselves walking a similar path. Many in the comments section also compared her to Samantha Jones, played by Kim Cattrall in the famous series, Sex and the City. @Lindsay Gabri wrote, “I'm always noticing single older women looking absolutely gorgeous, and the secret is no stress from men!!” @Chloe Ju-ana Collyer chimed, “This is me at almost 37. Single by choice, and it is just so relaxing. Thank you, queen!” @June moone shared her own plans, writing, “Yesss queen, I’m going to Spain, Italy, Monaco, and France with my best friend next month.” Meanwhile, @Frangie summed up what many were feeling: “You see how she is stunning and just radiant?!” 

In another video, @carmindy_beauty shared a list of 10 things women in their 50s should stop worrying about. Her message is clear: let go of pressure and live life on your own terms. First on her list is the idea of having a 'bikini body.' She says women shouldn’t stress over it. She also advises not to get involved in other people’s drama or feel upset about being single. According to her, chasing a man or feeling bad about not having one isn’t worth it. She encourages women to drop guilt, stop worrying about cellulite, and cut off toxic friends who bring them down. Gaining a little weight, she says, is not a big deal. She also adds that you don’t need to take other people’s opinions too seriously, should stop trying to please everyone, and shouldn’t fear change.

You can follow @carmindy_beauty on TikTok for more videos like this!